I'm going to go out with this girl who I haven't met yet. Someone introduced us to each other, but I don't know her yet. We're going to meet and go out in a few days. Not necessarily on a date, but just go meet and hang out. I've only talked to her over the phone, so don't know her well. I'm a shy person and not too experienced at these things. How can I tell if she's interested in just being friends, or if shes looking for a boyfriend? I'm really nervous about meeting her cause I dont want to make a fool of myself by doing something dumb like kissing her if she doesnt want it.
well, she agreed to meet with you right? Are you looking for a partner? The best way to make things happen is to do... nothing. Hang out with her, talk about yourself and her, ask her questions about her life and interests, ect. If you two hit it off, you'll be able to tell. Give her a kiss at the end of the night or something. What's the wosrt that could happen? If she has any decency, she'll just politely say no or take a step back. You can't really make anything happen between you guys, so just go there to have fun, meet a new friend and let life take over. Good luck!
Another thing that bugs me is the awkwardness with people I dont know. I stugle sometimes thinking of stuff to say or talk about...
headymoechick is right about that, just relax and be yourself, and if you want to kiss her at the end of the date, go for it. If she's a good person she'll be polite about it if she's not interested. And as far as conversation, just let if flow. I've discovered that if two people have things in common and the chemistry is right the coversation flows, and if not then the whole thing is prolbably not right anyway. You always have the old fall backs, school, music, movies and books. I gaurantee that if you two have things in common then you have conversation, don't worry too much about it, just go with the flow good luck
I think talking to strangers is easier! Think about it. You already know stuff about your friends and you usually end up talking about stupid shit right? Well, with someone you don't know there's TONS of stuff to talk about. What kind of music do you like, do you work or go to school, what do you do to have fun, do you smoke, drink, do you watch TV, what movies have you seen that you like, anything!!
so so true! With strangers they've never heard any of your stories or opinions or anything, with friends it's all old news, stranger convos are definatly easier by the way thebob, you're going to be fine, you'll do great and I'm sure it will all work out for the best. Just remember to breathe
Most of this is good advice. I would, however, modify one thing. Submariner says "Drink alot". Don't do that, it is a bad idea. What is a good idea is to have one (and only one) drink before going. It will loosen you up but not enough to make you act at all drunk or stupid. Make sure to brush your teeth and use mouth wash to get rid of any boozy smell, though from one drink that should be negligable. And clean those pipes (wank it), you don't want to start thinking with your "other brain" and act like a dumbass. Yes I know it sounds a bit crass, but it is a good idead when you think about it.
We're going out to just meet and hang out and maybe watch a movie or something. It's not an official date. Should I pay for her?
alot of girls judge whether it's a date or not (if they aren't sure) by whether or not the guy offers to pay. This can be decieving though, so only offer if you acctually mean it to be a date. You have tto keep in mind here that you haven't met the girl yet, so save the nerves untill you know if you even like her, she may show up and be smelley and annoying and you may want to run for the hills!
Paix is right. I wouldn't worry because she might turn out to be a total dumbass. When it comes to paying, bring extra money on hand and offer to pay, but don't be offended or argue is she says she'd rather pay.
ok so we went met and went to see the Ocean's 12 movie. We talked about different stuff on the way there and back. I went to buy the tickets and she asked if I wanted to split it, but I got it. Later she invited me over for a few minutes to show me her pet dog. Her dad was there though. She thanked me for the movie and said to stay in touch with her. I think I liked her, but again I say the same thing. We met cause our parents are aquaintances, and suggested we meet each other. I really dont know what exactly she wants, just someone to be friends with or something more. Thats the most stressful part of it.
well love, there's only one way to find out, and that's to ask. But first, be sure of how you feel. You don't want to ask her and have her say yes, only to realize that you aren't interested. What I do when I'm not sure if I like someone, is try to list all the things you like about them, and then rate that against how much you like those things in the people you're friends with. Also, did she act interested? Did she touch your arm while you were talking, hold your hand, anything like that?
I think both of us were too shy to do those kind of things the first time we met. Personally, I'm too shy to do that until a few dates.
Well thats probably just fine really, as long as you aren't too shy to see her again or call her up. Don't bother worrying about whether or not she is interested in you or if you are interested in her. Such things usually have a way of sort of working themselves out one way or the other; assuming that you keep in touch with her.
