Parents who support their teens sexual relationship?

Not necessarily so. This is exactly the point I was making about the way times are changing for the better, with better sex education through the generations. While our own generations may have found it a bit of a taboo subject to talk to our parents about sexual matters (although, not myself, as my Mother was a nurse & was always open & totally approachable about anything at all). As a result of today's parents improving the confidence in communicating with their progeny, the same (if not moreso) should be passed one to the next generation, and so on. It's all a matter of a responsible, compassionate approach from a very early age, so that the child grows up with an open attitude being second nature.

 

I don't like that saying because it implies that girls don't have sex drives and that they aren't looking to get laid because they're "innocent/pure", which is bull crap and part of the reason parents fail to teach and talk about sex with their daughters, when they should be doing so.

Talking about sex should be as simple as talking about the weather but society makes that not so.

 

I guess I was lucky as a teen. I could talk to my mother about anything sexual and she was so open and supportive.

 

I did talk to them about sex plenty of times but not about who they were having sex with or when. More about pregnancies, STDs, etc. So far, so good.

 

Changing the topic just slightly here:


Do you think it would be healthy for society as a whole to shift and ENCOURAGE their citizens to have children young?

If it happened at a mass level the stigma about having kids in your teens or even early twenties would disappear and the population increase would affect politics on sheer census #'s alone.


I mean sure lots of young people wouldn't be living a "YOLO party" lifestyle, but I often wonder if that's really a sacrifice at all for a society's youth. Having a family is at least purposeful, but I am unsure if "partying" is purposeful...which is what basically what teens and young adults do if single and childless.


Also such a national policy on child rearing could possibly reduce the prevalence of learning-disabled children, the onset of other mental illnesses in those who hit a certain high age risk for developing it (ADD, ADHD, autism-spectrum disorders, schizophrenia-spectrum disorders) to name a few.

Anybody else wonder about the side-effects long term about having a developed country promote child rearing in their 30 or later as a generational pattern?

It's a good policy for family economics, but what about biologically speaking for the quality of the Reproductive DNA?

 

I think if young adults were educated about sexuality, pregnancy, birth, raising a family and all the practical financial and lifestyle topics that most seem to struggle through because their time is wasted in school learning about the same wars over and over again, complex mathematical stuff they'll never use etc. Then yes, I think it could be useful to encourage young parents, but by young, I am thinking college age. 18 & up. Long ago it was more likely that first time parents were in their teens, but the lifestyle was completely different then.

What I'm saying is that biologically it should be fine, but emotionally I don't think our society is prepared for a massive movement of young parenting, because our modern lifestyle is not suited for that kind of living.

 

I understand where you're coming from, but I don't think you're interpreting the saying correctly. The implication is that other parents don't have to worry about your randy daughter running around and getting every boy in the neighborhood pregnant!

 

Also I don't want my kids to have sex until they graduate high school. More importantly though I want them to be honest with me if they are. They should of course, learn everything they can about sex, relationships and pregnancy. Then they should make an informed decision. It sucks when kids make a decision about sex and it's more out of peer pressure and a lack of understanding.

I think I like the idea of providing condoms if they don't want to talk about it. Maybe also providing a vibrator or something. I don't think that's weird, and I think I would do that. I have another 10 years before I should have to do that though, I think.

I definitely wouldn't encourage anyone to have sex, that makes no sense at all...no one needs encouragement to have sex, unless they have intimacy issues and a lot of those might be caused just by not being ready.

I don't think I was ready to have sex in high school and I didn't until I was in college. I didn't need anyone to encourage me.

 

The problem with that is, I don't want to sacrifice my own happiness for the good of society.

I like being childless and free and having disposable income.

I also don't think that having a family is the only way for a life to be 'purposeful'.

 

Wiccan Witch,

I don't think he's saying it'd be a mandatory thing, just a switch from the societal viewpoint that having a child young is the worst thing in the world, to encouraging potential young parents to go after that goal if that's what they wanted or if they found themselves in that situation to begin with.

I also think there are plenty of young adults who are doing more than just partying.

 

Ah, I see.

However, I think society has really changed a lot in previous decades. Those that really want children young, are still going to have them young.

Those that want a university education, work experience, travel experience, money for themselves...they are still going to wait to have children.

 

Exactly. It wasn't that long ago when someone would ask for a male to serve the at the chemists ti ask, in hushed tones, for some condoms, or for the barber to ask if you wanted 'anything for the weekend'. These days there's a wides range openly available from the self service shelves at supermarkets, along with sexual lubricants, etc., with absolutely no stigma being attached to it.

The attitudes to sexual activity have changed a great deal, and quite rightly so, and are continuing to do so, but the intended familiarity between parents & their progeny clearly should not be intended to encourage them to have sex, as nothing they say or do will ever stop them if they decide that's what they're going to do, but to be responsible adults & to take precautions for their own protection from STDs, as well as unwanted pregnancies. Furthermore, at the other end of the spectrum, to encourage & support those who don't really want to take the step into sexual activity just yet not to be pressurised by their peers, and to be secure in the knowledge that there's nothing wrong in making a personal choice to remain a virgin until they feel the time is right (which, of course, applies to boys & girls), but at the same time, not to condemn them if they decide otherwise.

 

This is a joke! I can't believe you said that. People should wait till college? That's impractical. Fact that you had sex at 12 or whatever doesn't mean you will be any more sexually active or "perverted" than one who had it first at 25 or whatever. This case should be "to each his own"

 

We are sexual beings. Some of us came to know our bodies earlier than others. Its different for everyone. My family was very open and accepting about these things and encouraged us to enjoy and respect our bodies. If that happens when you are a teen or in your 20's, that will be your time.

 

I've never heard of a parent actually encouraging their child to have sex lol that's a bit fucked up.

My friend's mom doesn't encourage her to have sex but doesn't mind getting birth control for her. <- My parents are not like this sadly lol

Parents that communicate with their child and supply them with protection if they found out they're sexually active are cool. Like if they know their kid is gonna do it they might as well just accept it and encourage good habits.

 

Well when I was 14 my mum gave me a couple condoms and said that if I ever needed more she'd get me some and it'd be our secret.
I never needed to ask her for more but looking back it seems unusual that she told me this when I was barely a teen. :O

 

Is it encouraging your kids if you recognize them as sexual beings. My mother knew at an early age that I was exploring my body. She also recognized that just saying no wasn't a solution. It was better for me to be sexual and safe at home than doing drugs somewhere. Just saying.

 

Yeah, I know a parent that did this. Her daughter is now 18 and has some issues that could have been avoided. Worth is not set on sex or it's availability. I hope she learns that soon. Mom didn't.

 

Living in Europe, I faced a totally different attitude on this and it was shocking at first, but I eventually began to share it. I have three kids, and each of them came to me when they started to think they might soon engage in sex with their girlfriend or boyfriend. For each one of them, it was at 17 or 18.

For my daughter, I refered her to a gyn, and she went on the pill, and we put pressure on all three (the other two boys) to use condoms. Even once we knew they were having sex, we would ask regularly if they were using condoms, and if they needed any more.

In Europe, people just don't make such a big deal about sex- it is considered normal for people who love each other to engage in it- even teens. I was shocked at first that parents would let boyfriends and girlfriends spend the night, but eventually ended up doing the same.

Now, the part of the OP that grabs me as wrong is the suggestion that the girl is getting the message that using sex can be a way of "tying down" or keep a guy. I am beginning to see that as a really detrimental part of our culture- sex as a tool for manipulation, instead of shared affection. That's pretty darn sinister.

 

America is very weird, isn't it?

On the one hand many will most likely rebel against the country if their guns are taken away,
Yet on the other hand their attitude towards safety is to have their kids minimize their sex agenda. Lol. Crazy nation.

Pink pistols with penis sleeve coverings to use as a dildo.. Boys, Jocelyn just made a million dollar idea.