Without direction

I will turn 25 years old in a few months. I will be done with uni next spring and I still haven't got a clue about what to do with myself or who I am. I have experienced many things: I have a BSc and am currently doing my post grad studies. I have seen my mother slowly die from lung cancer although she never smoked, I have seen my father on the verge of becoming an alcoholic and find his way back. I have seen almost all my mother's possessions disappear/be stolen as my dad moved away from my childhood home. I have travelled a lot; I have been to more than 25 countries, lived on 2 different continents. I have seen friends get married. I have seen my best friend's daughter smile.
All these things must have shaped who I am, yet I feel like I'm no one. I'm still a blank sheet without an writer to write the story of my life.... I used to take comfort in that, it meant that I could write my own story. It was proof of how independent I was. That I could do whatever I wanted with my life. But now I don't feel that way anymore. Now I just feel lost and without direction...

 

Have you thought about joining the red cross, or the coast guard, or something like that?

 

that's average for 25 ,you look around you at your Friends and see what you thank thy have but if you ask some of them thy would tell you thy look at you an fill the same ,we all have a ten-dance to think some one has it better and .when the truth is we are all missed up,usually when i fill that way ill find someone and try to make there day better by helping them how ever i can ,just because I'm filling like my life sucks ,why should someone elces ,and by helping them it helps me, I fill much better about myself knowing I gave someone a good day.

 

This seems to be a re-occurring theme in a lot of your posts?
Maybe you should join the military?
Or settle down and get married, have 2.5 kids and live happily ever after?
Or not.....
Keep searching but don't look so hard.
I hope you find the path you seek....
Peace....

 

you're lucky. at your age i had no direction and i had been to at least 23 fewer countries than you have.

 

you're having a quarter-life crisis.

 

that's pretty optimistic. i give it third-life at best.

 

Welcome to 24 going on 25! I think it's normal.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VT-SFgkVlno"]YouTube - Steve Winwood, Eric Clapton - Can't Find My Way Home

 

yeah, welcome to your quarter-life crisis. im in the same boat.

not everyone reaches the same milestones at the same points in their lives.

also, what you have could be seen as a blessing. if you have no real responsibilities or obligations the world is yours for the taking.

it's the waiting part that sucks.

 

I'm sure they've got a pill for affliction. Trust medicine I say.

 

All the experiences you mention are things that have happened to other people and you've just observed. I wouldn't give it too much contemplation. What I would do is go out and live. Meet lots of people, try things out, see what you like. Take it from there.

I'm just starting my life and I think it's pretty normal. So far I have mostly based my life on other people. That is slowly changing, and it's awesome.

 

I had one when I turned 25!

 

apparently i was wrong. life expectancy is now 100.

 

I don't know anyone in there mid twentys that would say that. Most people at that age it seems talk as if they gonna be lucky to make it to 70.

 

Shit I even feel that way.

 

at age 14 i was working in cotton mill ,going to school and razing a family of 5 my father had cancer, at 16 he died , i felt the weight of the world on my shoulders and the world was wining,I left school my grads were crap anyway,but was determinate my family was going to stay together ,and I could not relate with kid at school any more ,there concerns were of fashion ,and friends, mine was where the next meal would come from
and i know some were someone had it worse than me ,I all ways found when i was filling down and lost ,it help me fill better by giving someone else a hand .it keep my mind occupied ,and it felt good to know i was able to help someone ,if you can help one person thy will let you Know your value ,if not the worse that can happen is you come out with a friend,

 

Sometimes you have to loose yourself, To truly find yourself.

I have done many things and been many places, But all in one country. You have had a chance to see many parts of the world and live in some. More than most ever get to do. You got to share family moments with friends. You might forget it, But they will always remember you were there.

Look at the big picture you have already painted, Might take awhile, But it will sink in when you cant do those things and have a family/career/or ?. Good luck either way

 

reality requires no direction. pick one at random. university might have been more useful had one been chosen sooner. if there is anything you have learned how to do, that might be a good place to start.

there is also the possibility of looking closer at things you might have yet to notice right were you are. no, not the perceptions and perspectives of familiar people, but the physical ground beneath your feet. what gows there and what might not. the little trails left by innocent creatures you may have yet to notice.

 

You are about to graduate from university. Be grateful. I did not go to university (too dumb), and did not start to 'wake up' til my early thirties. Wanna trade lives?

- JKHolman