Blow jobs are not degrading to women

Head first, head first....

 

That's my motto!

I never thought of blowjobs being degrading to women. Heck, I've heard some of them had orgasms doing it.

 

I agree with Silk.. it's the attitude. I was raped when I was 14 and he shoved his cock into my mouth and demanded that I suck. When I didn't do it right, he beat the crap out of me. It took me years to get over the trauma of that. But now I love it, especially when it's my idea and I just can't keep my hands, tongue and mouth off of some delicious guy's cock. When it's part of a give and take foreplay, it's wonderful. When it's forced on you, no thanks, don't do me any favors.

 

If it is concensual, the woman feels under no pressure (or the man in a same-sex relationship) and oral is reciprocated, then that is fine. If there is an element of forcing or non-reciprocation, then I don't think it is.

 

Depends on how it's done. If she allows him to take hold of her head and face fuck the crap out of her, then it puts him in the position of power and she becomes a bit degraded.

 

I love a rough blow job ijs

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Feminism covers a broad spectrum but I think the Op is focused on straight female man haters that give head outside of a relationship. It seems hypocitical that they want a "handicap" from what they state is a man controlled society but on the other hand if the guy is hot enough they are down on their knees for them. I state this ,this way to get the idea across fast and not actually to flame so save it. 'Reproductive sex' ;even though you are just practicing , is the most mutual of a sexual exchange there is. I'll term blow jobs as 'unequal gratifying sex' for lack of a better term or UGS. As a male I would not give a women head without it at least being a part of foreplay. I would not do it for building selfesteem only. I realize there is the psychological orgasm element but women are not receiving head from guys with no strings attached so I deduct that there has to be a heavy dose of negativity involved. There is at least a heavy element of inequality. 69's are equal . A blow and go is not. We live in a barbie doll society so women need prof that they are pretty, degrading in some situations or not.

 

the only degrading part is if the woman feels degraded....my ex would do it softly, she'd do it rough, she'd make me shove it, grad and pull her hair and it was all in a loving relationship with a person that she trusted. She had orgasm after orgasm from sucking my dick in what ever way she wanted to do it that day.

Degrading would be standing on a corner getting paid for it but at the same time I have a few friends who are professionals in that field and to them they have no issue with it. They are professional, they have clients and they provide a service.

Some people would find it degrading to work in a pizza place.

 

When I get a blow job I turn into a super sayian

 

I agree. I've definitely struggled with people making judgmental comments about women that enjoy oral. The fact is that I'm in control and wield a lot of power. It's not submissive

 

It seems as though maybe i am the only one who thought that the OP meant when you say something in anger to someone (not particularly a lover)
fuck you!! (Not really asking for a fuck)
blow me!! (Not rally asking for a blow)
i will fuck your ass up!! (Not really threatening anal rape)

 

I think the issue here is not about whether or not oral sex is demeaning (its not in a healthy relationship), its the unfortunate presence of bigoted terms in our language referring to oral sex as insults.

 

Didn't Lenny Bruce have a whole routine about that. Where he points out that fucking is a pleasurable experience and the phrase "Fuck you" is actually wishing a pleasurable experience on someone we don't like or disagree with when what we ought to be saying is "Unfuck you!"

Or then there is this Carlin classic:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qNLOXJw0aUU

C/S,
Rev J

 

I also think blowjobs empower women. And yes - my GF says the same. There is nothing degrading in sex. And if something is, than there is something seriously wrong. I guess it depends how you make love. If a woman is giving oral sex she is in fact controlling situation - if her partner is just using her mouth than it is something wrong with the relation (except if she likes it, and it is a game for her). The same goes other way round, if I'm giving my GF oral I am in charge. If she just uses my mouth, than she is in charge. But actually I like that

 

I think about this sort of thing a lot these days. Ever since discovering that I really like being the submissive one in a relationship. So this is probably going to come off as way over thought. But I've got a free moment at work and haven't been around here much lately so I'm feeling motivated.

Two things to start:
One person asked what if the person likes being degraded.
Another mentioned that anything can be potentially degrading.

Both of those are important points I think. It's not about the act itself. It's about how you enact the act. And even more importantly how the receiver views it as it's happening to them.

In my own life I discovered a strong propensity for being the submissive in a relationship. I found I like it best when I feel like I'm being used by my fiancee. I prefer him to act in a way that disregards my personal comfort. When we have sex, I am his whore, his slut, and sometimes his little girl. And those moments can come at any time.

That said outside of the sexual realm I want to be treated nicely. And he does. But when sex is involved. I want to feel like I don't matter in those situations. I want to feel used. I want to be degraded.

Coming from that perspective blow jobs ARE degrading. Because I see them that way. I'm taking his penis into my mouth or my throat. A penis that excretes waste, that may or may not have been recently in another of my holes. A penis that once it's pleased itself sufficiently will squirt stuff that doesn't smell or taste very good into my mouth. At which point my fiancee will demand that I swallow it. Which I'll do.

But I like that kind of experience. Can't explain it but I do.

However, the point is that I feel that way about every aspect/kind of sex. Just being fucked in my pussy is mentally the same to me. I'm still being penetrated. A foreign object is still making its way into my body. Invading me so to speak. Being fucked really hard that way can still hurt, especially if my legs are up. And I still like it to feel like I'm being degraded.

It's all about how the participants see it. Before anyone gets too upset, please keep in mind that I can stop things at any time (and I do when I'm not feeling it). But I think saying something like "Blowjobs are empowering." is too simple.

Blowjobs are what we make of them. And the same things goes for sex in general.

 

it depends on how the man treats her.....some men can make you feel degraded, and some act appreciative