Some shelters have good drug and societal rehab programs. There are a lot of unsavory characters there so if youre predisposed to taking hard drugs and "falling in with a bad crowd" i imagine be wary but ive seen a lot of homeless and junkies get back on their feet through a local shelter here. I imagine there are places like this in every decently sized city
To talk like this is to say you don't wanna do it for yourself. Or saying you want one of us to put you back on your feet. Most people I know had a bad time at one point in their lives, rarely does anyone just slide into the perfect world. You admit you had a drinking problem, you admit you worked and lived under the roof of family as an adult. Time to man up and do for yourself and quit talking like it's over and it's someone else's fault. You have not yet seen the worst like many have, you are not ill and you are young with energy. Get up off yer butt and get what you want and need, talk is not gonna get you that. Let us know after you tried really hard if you failed and maybe one of us would help you. Right now there are many places that will help, especially for young adults. Get all over this and something good will come, meanwhile someone else is getting what you should be landing on instead of pondering an end to it all. Nothing knocks at our door, we gotta knock at their door. And you say you have no cell phone, 20 years ago there wasn't that option for people without jobs but they managed. I stuck umpteen resumes in a Lot of places and when I found one that really interested me most I was there every day asking to see the hiring boss. They didn't need a phone to call me even tho I had access to one, they told me finally one day when I went to the reception desk to go in and see the woman who did the hiring and I got the job. Within months I was on a higher paid position as a high pressure water cutter, something I would have never thought myself to do. I did that till the place had to move then I went on to other machinery because of this experience I had gained, loved every minute of it and the pay was sweet. I got paid more then most there as a water cutter and worked half hour a day less then they did because of the position. I beat out three guys wanting that job who were there before me because one was lazy and bossy trying to make others do his work and the other two had hot heads and proved to be dangerous around that job with others near by. You never know what could come your way till you try to find it. I didn't even feel bad scooping up that job. I was smiling every day while I watched others actually work harder then I did, sorry to say but it gave me the spunk to do better and better knowing I had it in me to do. Oh and I moved from a small city leaving my X to a tiny rural town and had to figure out rides for this job till I could afford gas. You can survive, it's human nature to try before giving up.
actually OP, in your state. your landlords must give you 48hrs to vacate even if you havent a lease. since they did not comply with these evection orders you can enter the home and live there til the produce some papers with eviction notices. In your state they have 48hrs. If they do not, you have 30days. You can sue them now, since what they did was illegal. No matter they are grandparents or not..
Does that apply if he was living with family and not paying rent? Can't remember if he said he was paying but still I thought that was about landlord and renter and wouldn't apply with parents and grandparents. Could be wrong. Even so it might be the kick in the butt a person needs to get moving and create their own space and living. I couldn't have lived with family, any of them just because since they know you they would expect more and if I had to give more it was gonna be for me that I did it. People today are dependent on family well into their 20s or more and that's a shame. I can see it if completing schooling but even if I paid a rent I think my parents would have wanted me home before 4am and they would have wanted my room cleaned, my share of kitchen work done,,, stuff I needed to realize myself as an adult and come to terms with as I grow on. I was a slob for a couple years till I saw for myself it wasn't a good thing, I stayed out late till I screwed up coming into work late. These are lessons a young person needs to come against when they are like 19 and on and becoming adults of their own making. Family will just mess you up and you don't see the real world, you see them as your keepers and supporters. You loose a job and they get you a new one, you never reach your on potential. I saw a woman on local forums here ask what we thought she should say to her son's boss after he came home and said he got shit at work and could be fired. Ya don't have yer wife or mommy fighting your battles at work. She didn't want him rotting away in her basement, sad. She tried to tell us that was the only job he could do and he needed it because he could get away with a lot, well at some point security fades and you gotta learn a new trick. Why sit back and sue and blame those who did give you a shot at it? Why not take the skills learned and broaden them? The day I'd sue my own grandparent is the day I lost respect for everything and everyone including myself.
If you live in BFE middle of no where, Build a small cabin or shelter to live in next to a water source. Eat and live off the land until you can get enough $$ saved. Millions of things you can do for a buck, Drunks throwing their cans in ditches in my area will net you $25 a day. More if you are willing to walk and search. Many options out there, Good luck either way
And if he is older then 18, even with low pay from GP and GM, it should be looked at as a handout for a start and a person says "Thanks, now I have a foot on the ground and will make my own way" but sounds like OP spent money drinking and hanging out under the Wing of family when he could have been looking into his future instead. Sorry OP but rich family or not you need to move it up a notch and become rich, or at least comfortable yourself now and if they die and leave you a chunk then bonus to you. It's the ones who won't do such that might not see anything come that kind of day. I have a friend who doesn't mind fucking up and relying on his well to do parents, they are backing off tho because their friends are telling them they should, he is mad as hell but he is 30 and able. Now its like a kick in the gut to him and to me it's a push he needs. Kids have to learn to save for a rainy day as people did years ago. Even more now because you don't know that your government will supply you with an old age pension by the time you get there. Our government already moved the retirement age from 65 to 67, now we gotta work an extra two years to get anything, if you saved before then you can retire at any time you want which my parents pushed us to work for.
The real problem isn't that you got kicked out of your house. The real problem is that you see yourself as the victim here.
I'm not saying I was perfect by no means. I may not be paying rent but I have worked 1000s of hours at under the table around 3-5$ an hour cash for my grandad doing jobs he bids at 60+$ an hour just to keep him happy... I only ever did this out of respect that they don't charge me rent. This isn't what I wanted forever. It was just a reliable situation that could get me through my last years of school that unexpectedly changed in just a few hours. I'll admit if I saved every dollar I ever made I wouldn't be in this situation, but I did hang out with friends regularly. I'm not the kind of guy who goes to the bar and starts 100$ tabs but yeah I like buying a 12 pack of natty and going fishing friends house to play yard games or whatever else. I see your view on homelessness as a result of my shortcomings, I used to feel the same but now I reliaze just how fast your luck can turn south. I'm sure I will come out of this stronger I'm just scared and at a lack of knowledge for now. I think I want to avoid shelters in fear of bein caught up with drugs, bed bugs, scabies etc. You may think just say no... But this amount of stress, fear, loneliness, just the fact that you don't know... Makes drugs sound so good that I'll never judge a homeless person for usingn again. I won't do it but I see how easy it is to get lured into the escape. P.s. I'm not gonna sue anybody I don't think they deserve that. I may never talk to them again just because it hurts realizing how unwanted and uncared for I really was compared to the other way around. But I don't wish anything bad on them
I've been homeless before- BUT homeless w a car (like I was) is a lot different than homeless w.out a car. If I were you I'd suck up to your grandfather n try to get him to at least let you stay there temporarily until you figure out something else. (and then if that works...save, save, save your money to leave!!)- Barring that I'd at least see if him or any other fam member would @least let you use their addy as your addy for job apps.
The resources are out there, you just have to access them. A call to 211 or a visit to www.211.org would probably take care of most of the things you need. You can get a free phone. You probably can return at least temporarily to the house that you were living in. How are you accessing the internet btw?
If your really serious I really will man... Really Ide work hard as fuck at my job and compensate you in return any way I could.
My phone even though it's disconnected can still access internet through public wifi, I've been stayin in a hospital parking garage out of the sunlight but I'm out of gas, I don't really know if I should panhandle around here for gas or lock my truck and hitchhike away. I looked into 211 the closest center is about 100 miles away, and I don't have change for a phone at this moment but I don't think they could help me over the phone anyway I don't see them sending me a ride. I'm about to go to a local church to grab a bite though I'll be back when I have some wifi
Other ideas people gave you are good....and also remember when it's nice out (esp summer but this pretty much, around here, applies to every season but winter...) as an option-last resort-type of thing... you can always find free or cheap but you can def find free campgrounds or other places to camp.... either just to park vehicle or if you have a tent...
If you've got internet access, you should also be able to make free calls, I think, via voip (I've never done this btw, but seems like this should be doable) https://duckduckgo.com/?q=free+online+phone+calls The 211 center may also have a web page with some info. You may also be able to email them. I may be able to help you with some other things too. It would be helpful to know your general location.
If you tell folks at the church where you are getting food that you are newly homeless and newly unemployed, they may be able to help you. You may also be eligible for unemployment benefits.
I'm sorry but they gave you a roof and some bucks, you won't talk to them again??? You were uncared for??? This isn't right, what he makes is none of your business and he owes you nothing on what he makes. He was likely trying to let you have a head start and you might have shot that down. You need to fess up and find your own way in life and thank him later. This boot is probably a much needed kick in your butt that will get you started on your own. I wish you well but don't ever dump your family because they did help and you didn't do well with it. If I needed a place to live and my parents offered me a roof and no cash but to help with the yard I woulda thought that was heaven and got a hold of myself, don't matter what income they have. They paid for my life already and my grandparents paid for their's already, them people owe us nothing once we are old enough to fend for ourselves and if they offer we should take it with great respect and if we didn't then we should move on and appreciate that they tried.
lol. (just saw this post.) Funny shit. (if you're looking at actually get drugs though sometimes it works much, much better to leave out the part about not looking for drugs.)
Sorry my posts thus far weren't too relevant- I had only read the original post and then first page or two but now I've read the whole thing. I agree w a lot of the things Sally told you. I don't know.... for me, I was kicked out of my mom's house when I was 18- basically because she had rules that I didn't wanna follow and I had a car and money and friends houses I could crash at and my mom's rules... well, they were actually and indeed a bit irrational and crazy but they were her rules-her house and she made me pick so it was kinda like I got kicked out, kinda like I left. But regardless of what happened- the term for it and all- I get along w my mom great now... but she is not the type of person I could ever live with so I am glad I left when I was 18 and never moved back. I also got a lot of life experiences taking care of myself... making the same types of, well, not mistakes that Sally mentioned... but things you gotta-or should-work out for yourself when you're young... What I did was- for a while (now granted I had my own money to do this), I stayed between my car, friend's houses and hotels for 10 months.... after the ten month time period, I had a boyfriend who I ended up staying at his house for a few months. I decided I wanted to leave him... not be w him at all anymore so that is when I asked around to friends if anyone was looking for a roommate and I was luckily able to find a friend of a friend that was willing to rent out a room, ha... basically it was like a large walk-in closet but it was cheap rent and I worked and saved money while I stayed there a while--- ended up not too much longer after that moving into one more place w roomates (bigger, nicer) for a couple months and then I met my husband... boyfriend at the time....and we started living together and I've been w him ever since. At times things seemed really hard for me and even though I had money, places to stay on and off for varying amounts of time, I remember I used to just wish and pray that I would soon have a home (or apt., whatever, something w my name on it without crazy room mates and all...) of my own where I knew I would be staying not just that night, week or couple weeks or month, but semi-permanently for as long as I wanted. And as, not hard as I made it all sound for me (because really, I was lucky that I DID have friends that helped at times... some money and a car....so it wasn't NEARLY as bad as what some people go through-for sure!)--- but there were bad parts of the whole couch-surfing kinda thing.... thinking I had found a place to stay for a couple weeks at least and then someone's crazy boyfriend coming back one night while I was sleeping in the living room and trying things with me... in a scary way. Just bad situations that I had to escape and I can truly say I am glad it is all over. But I am still also glad I had to learn to make it by myself. The one thing I can say is that back then.... 1998-2000 there were not nearly as many resources available for finding places... I'm talking about craigslist and stuff. What I would do NOW if I was gonna be homeless and did not have the money to just get my own place straight up is, I would look on craigslist under apartment sharing or whatever that sect is called.... when I have looked on craigslist for apartments for my family and I to move to, I have browsed that sect just out of curiosity of prices and stuff.... There seem to be a good bit of people wanting to rent out a room with kitchen access for $150-$250 a month. Anyone, with ANY job, can come up with that. So what I would do for sure... is look for something like that. Then find a way to come up with that money... I'd def be getting a job right away, even if it's fast food or a grocery store or whatever. I'd ask anyone in fam for a loan...whatever. But I'd do those two things. If for some reason I could not get those things to work out I'd do the camping/tent thing that I briefly mentioned earlier and sheeple also mentioned... But anyways, that's just what I'd do now.