Many men, of various sizes, worry about the size of their penis. For various reasons many men are unsatisfied and insecure with what they have been given. There is a well known contributor on another site that says penis size, at the extreme ends of the range, may cause issues but in between the range most, if not all, issues can be managed. In fact, often there really isn't an issue at all. I cannot speak for all men but I have learned a few things about size related concerns and insecurity from reading forums such as this one, speaking with people whose opinions on the subject I value and by reflecting on my own experience. These thoughts, some learned here, are from my perspective and about myself but I hope they will resonate with others. I always thought I was small... I am not. There is a big difference between being small and feeling small. It took me years to understand that. My insecurity was as unnecessary as it was unattractive. My insecurity has had a worse effect on intimacy in my relationships than the size of my penis has. If anyone told me they thought less of me as a man because of my size I would be disappointed in them so why do I allow myself to think this way? Why is it so much easier to use the opinions of the minority (those who are entitled to and have strong preferences for larger penises) to validate my insecurities instead of listening to the majority that would tell me I am ok just as I am? I have spent a lot of time worrying about something that, in the grand scheme of things, meant very little. And, it meant far less to others than it ever did to me. No one else needed to change... I did; so I have worked hard to do so. For me the significance of this issue has been far worse in my imagination than it has been in real life. I have learned a lot and it has changed the way I see myself. Thank you to those here that have helped me and try to help others!
Many women have the same concerns with their breasts, labia and general body size. I think a lot of this just normal human nature. We are influenced by the media so much and led to believe that bigger in everything (other than body size) is better, when it's just different.
if we were all the same it would make life boring. Last summer I was with a woman that had huge lips and they were huge. I always thought I was small and it was always on my mind but after a while I realized I was above average. I was out on night and the woman told me that she didn't know if I would even fit....I thought she was joking but I had to shove. He BF was about as big as my pinky. Some are built different too, last winter I had one that her vagina was so low it felt like it was 6" from her clit...impossible to stimulate with intercourse. I love the new and the different. Some woman love nipple play and some hate it. When I was really young I pulled the skin back on the head of my penis and it literally ripped off. I was in pain for about a week but it was just skin attached to the head of the penis. (I am uncut). All the ladies have told me that I have a huge head and they love it because it plows. I learned years after thinking I broke it that pulling the skin back early has shown to increase the growth of the head because it releases it. When I was a kid I had gotten an infection and the doc told me to make sure to clean it really good and pull the skin back hard. not sure if it was what he meant but once I did that I had no issues with keeping it clean and it grew.
Really beautiful post! I wish I could be like that. As a female, I hate a lot, if not everything about my appearance. I've had people, even during intercourse tell me how I'm not attractive for some reason or another, so I'm struck with that.
someone telling you that you are not attractive during intercourse is just cruel, we all got something we'd love to change but when you are connected with someone it should all be positive....
EXACTLY! And if it's not, then don't be with the person, especially don't have intercourse with them while complaining.
And why to worry about something you can't change? That time would be put to a better use if one would rather work on things he can change.
