Soul mate?

Yeah I didnt really follow that. Does he mean big shouldered/chested, or thick wrists etc? : - / Or heavy build eg muscle etc?



This is the Game of Thrones image stuck in my head. Personally, I prefer girls with v slim builds.

But I mean PR doesn't have a scrawny beanpole frame..

 

One thread, and many many posts within various threads. But I digress.

I've never been a super picky person when it comes to appearance in relationships/sexual partners. Although I did marry a major hottie (6', 210lbs, sandy blonde hair, green eyes, broad shoulders, muscular, killer smile....*sigh*), I've been with a variety of different shapes and sizes of both genders. I saw beauty in each of them for different reasons. I don't mean this in a demeaning way at all, but I feel sorry for people who's relationship decisions are based heavily on looks. They'll never know what love/sexual bliss/intense friendships they could be missing out on.

 

Brienne of Tarth is my fav!!
I wish I had that build! Her armour gives her a little more bulk than she actually has. She is tall as fuck, though.

 

I reckon David Copperfield did that to marry Claudia Schiffer.
He admitted having private pick up artist tuition by some PUA superstar.

Scientologists are VERY adept at brainwashing or whatever they call it.

YOU ARE FEELING SLEEPY
YOU WILL DO EVERYTHING I COMMAND
SNAP - YOU'RE BACK IN THE ROOM! : )

 

I'm sorry. Just a tough situation. I hope you two can move on from this and be friends. It would be great if she could be your friend without harboring feelings for you.

 

It all comes down to chemistry in the end though. You can say you're not all about looks and PR can say he has very specific and picky taste, but in the end you're probably both looking for the same thing - good chemistry.

Really amazing chemistry is usually based on a mix of looks, brains, and personality.

 

I don't remember this, but I've said a lot of shit over the years which I don't remember saying. If I ever did express that view, I don't still hold it, having come to the realization that most people who are fat are not fat simply because they eat too much and exercise too little.

I do not find fat to be attractive at all, however, partly because it's an indicator of a person's overall health and lifestyle. I don't find it attractive on other people, and I didn't find it attractive on myself when I was obese just a few years ago.

I certainly do not think fat people suck, though.

And I am not sure how the topic of being fat became an issue. The woman this thread is about isn't really fat, she is just big, and I am not attracted to this body type.

 

That's what I was getting at. When everything is right, looks won't be a deciding factor for me. That's not saying I don't have preferences for appearance. Just that it wouldn't be the main cause of rejection.

That being said, someone morbidly obese would likely not have similar interests as I do since I like to be active.

But like Rat said, I'm not just talking about people who are fat or not fat. I'm referring to appearances in general.

 

I recall it being a pretty brutal thread. That's why at least Mama and I remember it.

Glad to know you there's been a POV change.

I'm pretty sure most of us have a line where fat becomes a problem with attraction, just that mileage may very.

 

Now that you mention it, I think it was the "Fat People Running" thread.

 

Well, honesty is best, PR. You have given her her freedom to find someone else....rather than stringing her along and wasting anyone's time. That is what I find refreshing about you, anyway. I know you are real and who you say you are....(getting rarer and rarer in today's world.)

 

Just read a bit of that fat people running thread, and yeah it did come off kind of bad.

But I imagine you've changed since posting that...and in this thread you never fat bashed the girl. You can't really help what you're attracted to. I've personally never been attracted to bigger guys. Bigger girls, yeah. :love: Me likey.

Anyway, my point is you like what you like, and there's nothing wrong with that as long as you aren't being derogatory or hurtful.

Also, sometimes formerly obese people tend to be pretty judgy of currently big people. Not saying you are, just something I've noticed.

 

I'm neither petite boned or big boned....just medium, I guess.....lol...now that we are talking about bone structures....
Types....I either fall in love with people or not....not looks.

 

My brother has had this same quandry....He has been with someone for about 10 years now....who has been nothing but good to him...but he will not marry her, and told her so, as he says he loves her...she is a good person ....but he is not in love with her and not sexually attracted to her really. I played devil's advocate when talking to him once...and told him looks fade.....sex can get old and to look for a help mate and partner.....someone he could trust....and all of those things are more important than looks and sex, imo, anyway. It is nice if you can have everything....but there will always be something you want to change about someone if you are that critical....but...my brother's girlfriend went back to Japan now, just very recently...and gave up....anyway.

Hope whoever he finds next will be as good to him...too.

 

It's good that she went away, and gave up. He was clearly just wasting her time, poor girl.

 

Not really, as he told her from the beginning, he would not be marrying her. She thought she could change his mind eventually, too....so he never misled her. He would never mislead anyone.

 

and he tells me he just wants to be a playboy so I don't know if marriage will ever be in his cards.

 

You could give her a poke anyway, then give her one of Rubys T-shirts as a souveneir

 

So he spent 10 years with someone he loves, but is not in love with, or sexually attracted to?
Yeah, if it was me, I'd start believing things are progressing, and he's changing his mind somewhere around 3rd year, pretty much.
I'm kind of glad she's out of that relationship.

 

He also tried to break things off with her through the years a few times, but she was completely hooked and did not want even the close friendship they shared to end. ...so that was her choice, as it was her choice to finally give up.

My brother is a damn good catch! lol....and alot of good things going on....one of those rare genuine people, too..,..