interracial dating

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So r u in an interracial relationship, or want to be....

 

It is a nonissue for me which means I am not looking for a specific kind of race (so not explicitly my own race neither). I don't want to be in a relationship with someone because of someone's race.

 

Understandable, me either but thats what i said in the beginning that i look for a type of personality, which i usually only find in white guys to be honest... so i guess thats y i just generalize from the start.

 

To be completely honest, I have yet to be attracted enough to a person of a different race.
And I am pretty much only interested in dating people of my own race and similar background.

 

Most are thank u for your honesty

 

I used to enjoy the novelty of sucking black dick, and I like R&B music, but I never took it any further than that.

An old friend of mine married a black guy. She only has kids from a previous marriage.

American voodoo is actually about half white, even in New Orleans. Not a well known fact.

 

That, and it (much like santeria) would not exist were it not for the diaspora. These are NOT the only forms of magic practiced by black people).

I am nearly always in a so-called interracial relationship. Now is no exception. I'm leaving my Latino husband, but my new boyfriend is white. My first boyfriend was also white, actually, as were several lovers in-between. I have had black boyfriends, but mostly white and Latino partners and lovers. I date people, not origins and body parts. It only matters to me when it matters enough to someone else that we are in danger.

 

How do you handle it when an extended family member is a racist? There seems to be at least one of those in every family.

 

It's a non issue.

I actually don't fall for a person because of their gender or race. (although most of them have been males). I'm a white female married to a white male. Other long term relationships I've been in have been with other white guys, black guys and also I used to live with a guy (relationship...lived w for a few months) who was half black, half puerto rican.

In any case... Whether the other white people or people of a different race, none of it was because of their race ... it's just not a factor at all in deciding-it's who the person is.

 

This.

But if I came out and said this I'd never hear the end of it. "OMG you're racist omg racist nazi omg OMG OMG racist nazi German." That's exactly how it would go down from some of our thoughtful HF members we have here.

I've made it no secret I like the look of an Asian girl but I'm way more attracted to girls my own race and there's nothing wrong with that and there's nothing wrong with dating someone different either.

 

I have never really cared which "race" a person is from. My wife is Asian but I didn't choose her because of that. I have always been attracted to darker skinned women but it all comes down to personality in the end.

 

My girl is Chinese but pretty much completely westernised. I didn't know she was Asian when I first met her online, spent a couple of years I think without knowing that. I wasn't into Asian women at the time. I've never really looked at her as Asian though, she's just my girl, the racial aspect was lost a very long time ago if there even was one to begin with. We get stared at a fair bit outside by people, possibly attributed to the height difference of 5'3 and 6'5, or maybe it's the racial thing itself. Don't know, don't care.

 

An even lesser known fact is that a lot of American voodoo is not a matter as simple as black & white. I have black kin on the native American side of our family whose practices are an impressive mix of local tribal ways and those with roots in Africa.

For me what counts is a smile that reaches your eyes. :2thumbsup:

 

My sister in-law has said well-intentioned but outrageous things to me.

"Please don't wander around that main drag at night. Not for nothing, there's a lot of black people over here."

I wasn't sure I heard it, but her boyfriend and I immediately locked eyes, and I could tell he heard it too. So, I looked at my husband, and he had the "Please don't be mad, Honey" look on his face. So in that instance, I chose to accept that she loved me and didn't want me to be in danger, and to ignore that she thinks black people are dangerous. She may be a racist, but she is nice to me, and always has my back (unless it is me vs. my mother in-law, obviously). I am divorcing her brother, and she is still being kind.

My mother in-law says horrible things and denies them later. I hold her accountable because she is passive-aggressive, does not love me, and because she is very hard pressed to accept responsibility for the hateful things she says and does. I do not ever disrespect her, but I expect my husband to call her on her shit, and to raise my concerns when I'm not sure I can be polite on my own. Eventually, a line was drawn in the sand, and my husband chose me over pleasing them. I went to my sister in-law and encouraged her to help her brother reconcile with their parents, and to go visit them. When she asked why I wouldn't come too, I said I didn't want to deal with her mother, but that didn't mean I wanted my husband estranged from her.

SO. How do I deal? I choose my battles. I consider the source. I remove people from my life. If my husband had not been willing to stand up for me and his decision to be with me, I would have left him.