Soul mate?

I have a particular type I'm attracted to: female.

Hasn't helped my chances one bit. [sharedmedia=gallery:images:70378]

 

Nah, there are a million people I could be happy with. My wife is pretty rad though.

 

true, i was kind of thinking of libraries before they just became the place poor people go to look at internet porn.

 

I don't even see how a library hook up would work. Like you're just supposed to approach some random "hot" woman in a quiet library and start chatting her up? Sounds creepy and awkward. Libraries are just not suited for meeting women.

 

There is no place on earth suited for meeting women.

 

You should really give OKCupid a shot, Josh. Yeah, there are some heifers on there, but also a lot of surprisingly good looking women as well. I have found this to be the best way, by far, for meeting women... especially women with shared interests.

 

Interesting.
I never saw him as an internet dating site kind of a guy.

 

I think trying to build a relationship off of shared interests is a fool's errand. There's something about it that strikes me as odd.
There's a sort of forced intellectual process that occurs when you do that. I don't like that intellectualizing in general. It's such an empty feeling.

I've spent the better part of my life socializing on forums, which is a purely intellectual medium. In reality I'm tired of that sort of exchange. I would prefer a sensual relationship, note that I don't mean that in the sexual connotation of the word, but rather as an antonym to the intellectual sort of relationship. The type where you sit in a room with one another and breath. I think the fact that I even think about these things signifies that something is wrong with me.

edit: In a moment of clarity I suddenly just realized that it isn't actually about the interests, the interests are just a foundation upon which to build mutual affection and bonding. Despite understanding this, the process remains mysterious to me. I think I may be autistic.

 

Grass fed?

 

With regard to these types of things (interpersonal relations, etc.), you make a hell of a lot of sense. I can't help but agree with what you wrote here. Very well stated, too

 

Hot Pocket fed.

 

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I don't really want someone with my problems.

 

If you’re trying to become normal forget it, you’ll always be different.

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Hotwater

 

I don't shun them for who they are, I just don't see the point in forcing myself to be with someone who can't make me happy and who will only compound my own problems.
Don't opposites still attract?

Another thought - Choosing someone based on whether they are atypical or not is exactly the kind of intellectual abstraction that undercuts true happiness. I've always thought that, were I to ever meet someone who could truly bring light to my life, it would happen in a moment of spontaneity.

 

I think you're over-analyzing dating there bud.

Meet, date, more dates, and then either break up and repeat or get married.

 

I don't think there's anything wrong with you, how you feel around a person is what maters the most.

 

I don't think meeting someone in a library is that weird or impossible, it is just not something you specifly go to a library for on a regular basis (like in the case of going to a bar or club for some people). It all depends on the situation. Chatting people up in the library on a regular basis with the sole purpose to get a date is maybe not advisable
I think it is the same with supermarkets. You sometimes hear people recommend that to others: "don't try to hit women up in the bar dude, that won't work for you. You should try it in a more neutral environment like subtilely start a convo in the supermarket". Now if one does this on a regular basis to try to 'score' a date that might be just as futile as if they were doing it in a bar, but if you just keep your eyes open and there is a nice person and the situation seems right why not grab that chance and ask her something about the biological bananas to start a subtile convo? I'm serious though.

You should clearly broaden your horizon!

 

supermarkets would actually be a pretty logical place to chat up women. i mean, you've got to do something while you're standing there waiting for the trailer park ladies to decide which generic hot dog buns are cheaper and stop blocking the damn aisle.

 

The only place I really have to wait a while in the supermarket is at the cash register, I am pretty sure I flirted with a fun girl there once but it was short and apparently I was a bit flabbergasted by it so it only occured afterwards to me that I could have made something out of it I frequently make a comment when I'm in line there against the person in front or behind me (or I just bother the person working with irrelevant stuff ), but always just in politeness/for good fun.

Soo, why the supermarket but not the library? It's not like everybody in the library is nose deep in a book reading concentrated right? I mean I saved that for home.