Loner Or Slut?

Exchange "won't be humiliated" and "won't get hurt" for "let yourself be humiliated" and "allow someone to hurt you".

What does that tell you?

 

Hahaha... yeah, I tend to be brutal and snappy sometimes.

The problem sounds like it's not trusting yourself, and not letting go of the past. Poisonous thing, the past... very dangerous.

I don't know how to help you. You need a better therapist, who doesn't encourage this ridiculous... er, self-destructive behavior, and instead will be a trusting guide to take you on a "trip to dark places" as mine says, delve into the dark secrets, history of your own mind, bring everything to light and up front so you can figure out how to deal with them at the root, rather than indirectly encourage them... but beyond that, I haven't the faintest idea. It's probably gonna hurt real bad, though, so best of luck to you

 

You hit the nail on the head when you realise that you try to 'label' yourself as one thing or another. We are mult-faceted and constantly evolving. It's not wrong to contemplate 'what' we are, but it doesn't define us. We are all many things (and that's what makes people so interesting). 'Labels' can be interpreted so many ways, which is why they're dangerous and not to be taken seriously.

Being able to absorb yourself 'in the moment' of whatever you're doing is not a bad thing. It's the way many people maintain happiness and don't let the past intrude.

I hope you find peace of mind.

 

Thanks, gang.

In defense of my therapist: she recently told me to challenge labeling, to embrace variety and balance, to sometimes by alone and sometimes by with others and that I control what people know about me.

There is an office slut, a guy, who last weekend had a fivesome (FFFFM). I opened up to him about my sex parties. He was enthusiastic and non-judgemental. I thought maybe he would be upset because he's the overprotective, hypocritical big brother or something. Nope. The reaction was completely positive.

Anyway, you guys have been a tremendous help to me. I feel like this is a community.

 

Where are these sex parties at? Can I find one local to me? I'm in Florida.

I didn't even know there was a mental health section of this site until now. I think I found my new home.

 

The sex parties are in Maryland unfortunately. Maybe you can find one local to you on Facebook.

Yes this place is great!

 

If you spend a thousand years being a slut, wondering what a loner is; you will never know what it means to be alone.

If you spend a thousand years alone, you will know what it means to be a slut.

 

I liked you better when you were just an old dude, not an old dude playing dressup games.

 

So you can get someone prego real quick? Because who wouldn't want to be a mother? Right?

Good. I'm proud of you. This section could be real good for you.

 

No I wouldn't want to get someone pregnant at a sex party. That's not the place to do it.