Been married two monrhs to my hubby and we still haven't had sex....

I wouldn't say anything originally. Not exactly. If I was you what I would do is... on my first post in this thread the things I said that you should talk to him about... I'd start with talking to him about that. You can add that if SOMETHING...ANYTHING....is bugging him (which it would seem like w him not sleeping w you), that you want to be here for him and be understanding and how you can't do that unless he opens up to you... and see if he'll open up to you...

 

There are a lot of factors that come into play with molestation. If he was molested by a man he might have mix thought about men and woman and the extent of the abuse can cause a lot of issues.

You need to sit him down and explain to him that you will work with him through anything but you need to explain to him that you want to feel close to him.

If he was ready to give himself to you in marriage he should have opened up and given himself in spirit too....

It takes a lot for me to tell someone about my abuse and I tell them that if and when I can I will explain. I have my triggers that can make me freeze but I have learned to work around them.

Don't push but make sure he knows you are there.

 

Calling TOTAL BS on this one...

If this is not BS then I am shocked at the lack of familiarity you have with your husband. Not because you guys haven't done the nasty (that's a whole different sort of lameness), no I'm talking about how you can not seem to know more about the man you just married than you do. Seriously was this one of those husbands in the mail ad you subscribed to or what? I'm not going to to preach about how I think everyone should have sex, sleep together, move in together prior to marriage (although they really should IMHO) but seriously you sound like a person who married a guy and just found how he's a vegetarian or something like that. Do you know if he's a real man or not, cause he could be an alien from another planet...

Again I guessing this is all a hoax

 

The sis was right to tell you. Somebody has to say somthing. Someone has to get the ball rolling. I think you guys need some professional help.

 

I think it's ok the sister told she's his wife and is trying to be a good wife to her husband and fulfill his sexual needs. OP u need to talk to him. Ask him y he hasn't laid with u and then if he doesn't say just ask like " what is it u can tell me anything I mean were u molested or something?" Maybe he will tell u then. If he still doesn't u should just say something like " oh well if it was something like that I'd want to know and I'd want to be there for u because u might have felt alone then and I'd want u to know that ur not alone anymore u have me ur hurt is my hurt and ur pleasure is my pleasure "

 

I don't think it's odd he didn't tell her not everyone is wiling to discuss things about their lives. There is shit about me I'd never tell people in real life some things u just don't talk about

 

He sounds gay to me. Not trying to troll or anything, but this is a Lifetime movie waiting to happen.

 

How could you even marry someone in the first place without having had sex with them? What did you do while you were dating?

 

Necro posting guys, she's long gone