Bedding Married Man

I don't think it's their fault either, shy. If any of this had happened to me, I think a piece of my heart would be on the floor after reading that. =[

Like you say there are many reasons to cheat, sometimes it's purely selfish reasons. Perhaps you're getting enough at home but that one partner isn't doing it for you so you look elsewhere.

Who's fault is that? Definitely not the partner holding monogamous values. That indicates a lack of communication within the relationship. If monogamy isn't what one wants it needs to be expressed so that changes can be made to the relationship or both parties communicate and reach the conclusion that this isn't what they want anymore.

Communication. If your first move is to simply cheat.... What a miserable, selfish person you might be.

 

It doesn't really matter if the cheating spouse isn't getting enough at home. Unless that person has an agreement about sex outside the marriage....he/she made a promise. Your word matters and someone is trusting you to make the right decisions. If I cheated on my wife, I would feel like my word and integrity meant nothing and obviously she must not mean as much to me as she should. I'm not going to say the OP or the husband are "bad" people but there is obviously some dishonesty going on here.

 

what a misogynistic point of view. Maybe his wife doesn't have sex with him because he ignores her or treats her like shit and her needs are not being met.

also some men are serial cheaters and will cheat whether or not they're in a happy relationship. Some women are like this too

 

I never said it was the spouses fault, I just said, if a man isn't getting what he needs at home, then he will probably look elsewhere for it. If you keep your man's sexual needs met, I think, the chance of him cheating will greatly decrease. Maybe I am wrong, but I am entitled to my theories and opinions.

Nowhere in what I wrote did I say anything about it being the spouses fault.

 

Then she has greater issues than her husband cheating on her, doesn't she?

Yes, I do agree some men are serial cheaters and simply cannot not cheat, even when they are happy, and some women are like this as well.

 

Thanks for the replies, except the one who wanted to break my face. I've decided to stop seeing my married man. Too stressful, too complicated, too good... And I have been feeling like a bad person... Feeling stupid and naive too. Oh well. Guess I gave him the stick to beat me.

 

I don't think you are bad. Because its the self belief that make you bad or good. If you find yourself bad you can stop this anyhow. You are continuing that means you find it authentic. But believe me you will land nowhere in coming days and I guess you will be the only one to blame yourself.

 

Talk to the OP about it.

 

A real man would deal with the problems in his marriage before betraying his wife. If he has no respect for the woman he married he has no respect for you. If he'll lie to the woman he married he'll lie to you. Same applies to cheating wives.

Why do you want any part of that?

 

A real man wouldnt be dumb enough to get married in the first place

 

Thanks for replying, South Paw. You are absolutely right.

As I said in an earlier post, I have ended it... out of respect for myself I would add. But it hasn't been easy. He won't let go... until he finds another silly woman, I suppose.

 

Regardless of your feelings on marriage, a real man conducts life's business in an honest and honorable way in all aspects of life.

You never betray family.

 

Its quite easy if they are just a bunch of fat, selfish, money grubbing, racists

 

Sex has nothing to do with love!
So take it, as long as the taking is good!
I am surpriced on how people with much dirt on themselfs judge others!

 

Um......marriage is a commitment to share your life with someone. It's an emotional, sexual, and spiritual commitment. By spiritual I don't mean a religious commitment though that can be part of it, but an ultimate display of trust and faith in one another.

If a couple agrees to an open marriage then all the power to them. They're being honest and open with one another and free to conduct their marriage as they choose, but when it's a betrayal of that commitment it's wrong. That's not how you treat people you care about. Sexual commitment may be a symbolic commitment...but it's a commitment nonetheless.

So no....sex isn't always just "sex".

But what do I know? I've only been married 20 years. Actually 19 years, 11 months, and 17 days but who's counting? It's not like I have any experience making a relationship work, right?

OP is on the right track. Good for her.