Is My Boyfriend A Sociopath?

I do not know the op or her boyfriend and always say i don't know....as i said earlier....he did not sound sociopath.....
I was talking about someone else...not you or anyone else on this thread, and I would never make light of anyone with real mental issues or people on meds....i am a helpful person.....
i only get my ire up when people try to hurt me. Do you even hear what i ever really say?

well, thanks.

 

i am nuts....in a good way...i never felt it was a bad stigma, anyway....aren't we all nuts?

 

you also don't know the people ypou are calling ''nuts''

moonglow.....nothing you could reply here will help......you are digging deeper and deeper into a truly uninspiring set of posts.....

''those ones'' ''nuts'' ''they are easy to recognize'' ''the smart ones'' ''the ones to watch out for''


omg....you think this is helpful?

how?....how is this post helpful?


they aren't fuckin nuts....they are sick

 

like I said....the help is there

 

I have known people who are master minds that have tried to hurt me. Do you think it is right to intentionally try to hurt someone?
let me ask you that. I am sorry i got off on a tangent on this thread. I was reacting to something else, so i apologize for that.

 

i mean come one...let's take charlie manson as an extreme example....sociopath...psychopath and definitely mentally ill....
and dangerous to others...master minded others to kill for him.....come on....am I going to go hug him for it or am I going to be damn mad at what he did,.
People lost their lives...that is what I am talking about.....

 

This guy doesn't sound like a sociopath.I've known a couple of those and he doesn't sound like one of those.Sociopathy is a pretty severe condition.Maybe he is a bit withdrawn and lacks other meaningful relationships with others,but that's quite common today.I would try and draw out some empathy with him.A lot of guys find it hard to say "I love you".Watch out for danger signs but I think this guy is decent.Sorry I haven't read the whole thread but I hope this relationship works out for you.We all have our quirkies.

 

The psychopath I knew (whom I talked about in a previous post) seriously was nuts. And he knew it and used it to his advantage. Can't speak for all on that matter tho. Another was my best friend for a long time. He did struggle through life. No idea where he is now, but he seriously screwed me over, so a sense of empathy (if i used the term right) only feels appropriate. After everything I did for him for him to still end up screwing over my family, though not logical I suppose, still... just makes me sad.

 

yes, terrapin, I was also reacting to what you had said about smart ones.....so that did sort of launch me into that direction as well.....i thought long and hard about things and was not just talking out of my ass.....
anyway, I did know what you meant....and am sorry for your experiences.....
damn...if I am not upset now....

 

Why don't you just ask him

 

You don't think she thought of that already???!??! ? :Cuss:

 

using Charlie manson as an example didn't help your argument mg....it just proved my argument beyond any doubt though....thank you

those with intelligence can see the stigma surrounding mental health oozing from your posts

 

Moonglow is not the only one in this thread to use the term "nuts".

She's doing fine.

Stop attacking her, please.

 

Thanks, I respect your opinion. I can totally see how this would come across to you. And I actually agree with one of the things you said- I am very concerned for my future. I don't want to be in love with a sociopath who could damage my life. I've already gone out with an insane man, I really don't want another.

There's no drama in my relationship and it's fucking beautiful, it's nice not having that awkwardness after a row and that silent hatred and anger. It's very nice and I'm happoy about that. The point i was trying to make was, he doesn't seem to show very much emotion and doesn't react to some things how most people would. It's not about the lack of arguments, it's about the lack of emotion. Please re-read.

As for the ambition, perhaps I should re-phrase- he doesn't sit on his ass all day and not do anything, he has a job. I'm worried that he doesn't have a goal as such, and he's worried too. What I mean is he doesn't stick to anything- and that's a trait of a sociopath. I don't need him to earn more, I want more than anything for him to be happy and do something he likes rather than jump after this and that, sometimes quite unrealistic things. His mum and I had the same conversation recently.

I don't want him to change! He's so wonderful in many ways. I wouldn't be with him if I was unhappy, it's just a few things I've noticed that makes me wonder if he's... you know. I think a lot of girls wish their man was a little more open with them- but that's not unusual. It would be different if I said I wanted him to be taller or richer or something stupid. None of that has ever crossed my mind.

Oh, hi, Underwear. I was waiting for your input. But yes, you are right. I do come across as obsessive and it's not just with people I date- it's about everything. I am a chronic over-thinker. :/

 

Hi, thanks for your opinion. He told me himself that I am and this is how he views our relationship and himself. Funny you say I'm full of myself because I notice traits about myself. I am nosy and ask a lot of questions!

 

I don't think overanalysis is ever a bad thing. I mean it can be, others may tend to view it as strange sometimes and call you out on it, but it seems to come from certain experience. I've noticed with some people it's sort of like a defense mechanism. Wanting to view a situation from all possible angles before jumping into a pool filled with sharks lol. A lot of people do it, some... a lot more than others. I think it's part of where I got my name as a turtle. I'd be going out and people would be waiting on me, but before leaving the house I had to make sure all the lights were off, windows are locked, dog is fed and has water, grab my coat and everything that belongs in my pockets, and before long I'd hear "Come on turtle!! We don't have all night!"

 

Sentences like this in particular, He, They, hear so often, will automatically get them suspicious, especially once you do start fighting over mostly money

Are you really being honest there? "More than anything", what if deciding to spend the rest of his life on welfare, smoking pot makes him happy?

He knows that's not true, so does everyone else

 

yes aerianne....I only did it to moon because out of the bunch she is the redeemable one

 

What do you mean?

 

He means that he thinks there's hope for you and that everyone else is...nuts?