Hubby Wants Open Relationship...what Do I Do?

We're mad at all the liberals for not being conservative

 

I don't see where you've contributed anything to this thread except to deride me so, once again...

 

lm conservative for the most part, not on the marriage thing, marriage is commie garbage

 

I am still surprised that there are many people that want to engage in open relationships considerings STDs. To each its own.

 

I'm not sure what kind of relations you have been in, but I've always made it a point to make sure my partners don't have STDs. And keep myself checked as I should anyways...

it's really no different than any other relationship communication...

 

bunnie, baby, invite me over to your house, let me fuck the dog shit out of you in front of your husband and see how he likes it. i bet hes talking shit but can't handle the reality.

 

baby, baby, if you were my girl, you would never have to feel like that ever. i would make sure you felt like the most important thing in my world at all times, you would never be second even for a second! ill give you everything and anything you want, what do you want? you want the moon? upon a stick?

 

You need to calm yourself, bro.

All this big talk sounds like your compensating for something.

 

nope, thats honestly how i would treat a girl i loved, not even exaggerating a tiny bit.

 

im actually really surprised you think its "big talk", in all your closed and open relationships i would think you came across at least one guy that wanted to treat you as good as that.

 

I don't think that really matters in this case, because you can be the most amazing guy in the world and still not be compatible with a million women, sexually and otherwise. This matter really isn't about you, it's about what the OP and her partner can do to make each other happier in their relationship.

I mean, hey, you treat your girl well. That's great. But still, that alone won't mean anything if you're with someone who isn't compatible with you. Will Bunnielight be compatible with you? You certainly don't know that. By saying all that stuff about you being so great and that you'd make her so happy if she were with you instead, you're not doing anything more than just making assumptions that you will be better than her husband. That, as far as I'm concerned, is kind of pointless because you have not lived their lives, and you have not grasped all aspects of their relationship the way they have. Hell, the fact that Bunnie came here to ask advice on her situation means that even a couple who have been together for so long can still feel uncertain about something every once in a while. And that's totally fine. What matters is that they find a right solution that works for them. Not one that works for you, but for them.

 

Wow, so much dumbassery in this thread.
I mean... seriously.

I had to skip a big section of the middle of this thread, because I just couldn't stand the stupid anymore.

Bunnie, it sounds like you and your husband have a really strong foundation to build on.
I know you feel jealous of him being with another girl, but maybe it would help if you were there... participating.
He really wouldn't mind, I can almost guarantee it.

But all these people clamoring over "divorce him!" or "you suck!" are missing the point.
You did shit that was fucked up, but your husband loves you and apparently can understand the aspect of human nature you followed.

Now you're freaking out about him doing the same thing.
Is it hypocritical? Yes.
Is it out of line for you to feel that way? No.

This shit ain't as easy as Black and White or even 50 shades of gray.
Nobody has the answer for everyone, unless they'er answer is fluid and accounts for differences in beliefs/feelings/a million other things.

Also, people change.
While you or your partner may want to have a open marriage, a three-way or whatever non-traditional experience is brought up, early on... either one may change their views on unexpected feelings.
Like how you were like "this is a need" when having sex with an old acquaintance, but later on realize maybe that wasn't the best idea going forward.


Love doesn't need sex and sex doesn't need love.
But empathy is universal.

 

(Side note... AAAAAAHHHH!!! MOTHERFUCKINGSHITFUCK!!!! I'm really not used to being limited on how much shit I can "Like")
(Sorry to several posts I wanted to liek, but for some reason being nice is limited around here. 0.O)

 

first of all, i would like to just make it clear that im joking, im not seriously going to go to her house and fuck her in front of her husband!

and my advice reflects my own beliefs, which is that i dont think a guy who is seriously in love with a girl should should have sex with other girls, or let his girl suck other guys dicks. so i actually disagree with the guy above, i dont think its a good foundation. but thats just me judging based on my own beliefs. nobody should ever take anything they read here seriously, its for entertainment.

 

Dude, I know that. It's just that you were saying the same thing on some other threads too, and I just thought that came off as if you were being a bit pretentious and making assumptions about what Bunnie actually wanted. Maybe that wasn't your intention, who knows........ I just thought it wasn't necessarily called for because the OP's of these threads are already open-minded enough about the idea of polyamory, which means there's really not a whole lot of point in trying to "revert" them back into monogamy based solely on what they've said on here so far.

Again, I know that and that's why I posted my initial reply in the first place. Like I said on another thread, you're free to believe in whatever you want to believe in. But forcing your belief upon others by saying how wrong it is to be otherwise? That to me is a display of selfishness, not nobility. That was the point that I was trying to make with my previous reply. By the way, if by "the guy above" you mean Kick Frenzy, then I for one think he makes some very good points, and he comes off as being ver fair in regards to Bunnie's situation since he seems to try to take all aspects into consideration. But that's just what I think. I can respect that you don't agree. And in certain situations, I'm sure you are right. I just don't think this is one of those situations, that's all.

 

dude nobody is forcing anything on anyone, im just putting in my 2 cents cuz i was invited. i stand behind everything i say though, because i do believe in it, im trying to be honest here.

also, i didnt want to mention this before because i thought it was too personal, but since im being honest:i think the husband in this case is not acting out of love, but has other intentions. bringing up the past and making your partner feel guilty to get your way is pretty fucked up, but im guilty of doing it too.

btw, if you haven't noticed 99% if my posts are sarcasm, so don't take me seriously please.