Don't really have a friend that I feel comfortable talking about this with and just really wanted to casually discuss, share, hear others' stories. My wife and I have been married for several years and she's always wanted to use a dildo on me. I do probe myself once in a while while going solo so it's not like I'm completely against it. Today I decided to order her a strapon harness and dildo to give it a go. She also invites other women over for 3somes sometimes so it should come in handy then too. I'm slightly nervous that she might look at me as less of a man afterwards but that's probably just my pride talking. She's been having some libido issues lately and mine has been ramped up so hopefully this will also help with that.
I think that's cool. Don't worry about feeling "less of a man". In fact, do feel more of a man for taking an initiative in that way. Whatever works for you and your wife, is what it all comes down to. Provided that all activities are safe, of course.
I had a lot of the same concerns my first time with my second wife, my first time was with first wife and she was not nice. But my second wife was open with me about the idea of ars play, she was gentel and kept talking to me. By no means did it make meless of a man, in fact i think it was quite the opposite. Since then we had a bump in our marriage and made me wonder if i could trust her with that again, until last week when she offered to finger me. After two years it was tight but felt amazing, but the best part is knowing i can put that in her hands again. You have to be able to trust her, and she you. Trust this, once you start it will be hard not to want it. It is quiet a feeling.
I agree insomuch as being fucked in the arse by your woman is an amazing feeling on so many levels. Physically it feels fantastic. Emotionally it feels incredible. Does it make you feel less of a man? Absolutely not!!! It actually makes me feel even more of a man in that it shows my loving wife that I have less inhibitions than most men. I'm not sure everybody will agree with that statement but I'm sticking with it! Go on, do it and I'm sure there will be no regrets whatsoever.
I could not agree more with this. It is a fact. Another really cool aspect of this is the switching of places, letting (so to speak) be the top giver while you are on your knees receiving is a cool pprospective. It is a totally new experience and one worth doing at least once, but you must have trust and open communication. Any time you are in ars you can hurt partner, simple two rules me and my wife follow ; 1: talk. If reciver says stop. Stop! 2: if you think you have enough lube, add a little more for good measure. The ars does not lube by itself. I stay away from analeze as it numbs the sphincter , first off i want to feel it, second if it hurts i want to know. This works for us.
My I ask which strap on did you get? Any one else like to say? I going to buy one just not sure which one.
My method for buying new and unfamiliar products, be it sex toys or electronics, is to search on Amazon and sort by highest ratings. Ended up with this harness http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B003MKKWVW Got a couple difference sized dildos(one small, one medium) and a corresponding set of o rings. http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000PHJB26 http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000PHJAX6 http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0035B086M My wife can get pretty enthusiastic so I thought it best to let her start out small fire safety reasons. Lol.
I think the harness is really sexy. It will look great on my wife. I didn't want a boring one that was just straps.
My wife read a book called The Wife's Wicked Weekend last week and got so excited that she went out and bought a Strapon dildo. When she got home, she had me strip down and she pounded my ass all night. Everytime I came, she would feed it to me using a separate dildo. It was amazing.
That sounds absolutely amazing Lunaman! I'm going to order a copy of that book for my wife and hopefully it will have exactly the same effect. Thanks for the tip!
I would not worry. My wife had her girlfriend living with us and they both pegged me for years. I also had other women peg me. No one thought less of me and in fact, outside of the bedroom they were all submissive to me in real life. Just a word of caution though. One day the girl got carried away and tore my colon. I had to get surgery to fix it and after that, no more pegging.
