Hiya! So I'm a girl and I was wondering about anal mastubation. This is something I've been wanting to try for a while now, but just haven't done it because I'm kinda clueless. I'm not old enough to buy toys and lube, so what can I use around the house? And there's no condoms in my house either (my mom is against all things sex, so can't really let her know I'm masturbating). So what can I clean and use? Also, what can I use to put into my vagina? I've heard tampons, does that work? Any tips, guild lines, advice? All of this can really help! Thanks!
I dont think you can't masturbate with tampons because they will suck up all the moisture. As for your anal masturbation you can use anything that is the right shape, use your imagination. Just make sure it doesnt have loose parts! My wife and I use Palmolive hand cream as lube, cheaper than KY and it works better and lasts longer.
You can use tampons just pull the cotton out first. You can use anything really just clean it with hot water and soap before and after.
Pardon this long reply. I take the OP very seriously, because I remember being where she is on a quest that has yielded unimaginable rewards in my life. So I'm going to say to her what I wish I could have said to the younger me! If you're not interested, please skip it! You can be adventurous and creative, but be careful. It's delicate tissue in those places, susceptible to tearing, so you'll want to be certain you use something smooth and durable (so it won't split or break or splinter inside you). For instance, my very first orgasm (of any kind) was from using a pencil (rubber end first) in my bum! It freaked me out because it felt so incredibly good and strange at the same time. I mean it made my body jerk and spasm, so that was weird, but the internal feelings were immensely good. Better than genital masturbation. Once I worked up the courage to do it again, I used other things (screwdriver handles, garden tool handles, etc.). For many years this was my secret "sin," and I felt like a freak, because other people would look at household objects and see them for what they're designed for. But I'd look at a chair and think "wow, I bet that leg would feel *great* inside me!" I did that a lot, even into adulthood, and felt slightly nutters because of it. But now that I'm married and my mate knows about it, it's her thing to do with me. It has really been this fun, private thing between us, like we're co-conspirators in some secret enterprise. Her current favorite device is a hammer handle, and she has become a wizard at making me cum anally with it! We actually do use a condom, just to smooth out any potential rough bits. We have owned a purpose-built Pyrex glass dildo that was wonderful, but we lost it somehow, and really the hammer handle is better, so no great loss. I'm a male, and so orgasm for me is "supposed to be" this wham-bam-thank-you-m'am, flash in the pan kind of thing, followed by a total collapse of interest. Well, thankfully, nobody told my ass that! We have a period of foreplay (with lots of nipple stroking, on me--not her, she doesn't like it) that works up a load of oxytocin in my bloodstream, and makes me feel trusting, cared-for and submissive as anything. In that state, she can reliably have me cumming for 1/2 an hour to an hour, but that's just until one or both of us drop from exhaustion! I reckon if we had all day and were well-rested, sky's the limit! She plays me like a fiddle, and I feel SO lucky to be in this relationship. Anal orgasm can be elusive, and the surest way not to have one is to obsessively work for it. It really is best to just let it happen or not happen (allow it to sneak up on you). I advise using a firm, smooth, solid object to get the requisite pressure on the right bits. Relaxation, a sense that you have all the time in the world, privacy, and freedom from distractions or worries--these things are essential. Maybe some chill-out lounge music. Obviously, you want to be clean there. Enemas are your friend (though not a deep, colonic enema, unless you want to wait half a day to masturbate after it). Just a few shallow rectal rinses are all you need. Even then, I'd wait 1/2-hour to an hour for the rectal tissue to return to normal. If that's not feasible, then time your activity for the hours you know you're emptiest. Personally, I advise not to empty your bladder beforehand, although if you really must go, it's better than being interrupted by a trip to the loo. If you have sufficient PC muscle control, and you can stop mid-stream so that you don't completely empty, it would be best. Believe me, the bladder's nerve bundles are an extreymely important, under-rated, mostly overlooked contributor to the feelings we get during orgasm (even vaginal or penis-centered ones). More about what feels good later. Even if you're in a sexually active relationship, I thinks it's good to experiment alone in the beginning, because you're going to want to focus exclusively on exploring your body "in there," and finding out where your magic buttons are. Once you know what feels good, you can involve your partner, if you're in a relationship. It really is better with someone else "driving," and you just receiving (or "being taken" if you like thinking of it that way--and I do). Much, much better. In the meantime, just learn how to feel maximum pleasure from anal penetration. Things I can tell you are that there are several nerve plexuses that can (alone or in combination) make you orgasm anally. However, mentally you must accept, embrace and sexualize the strangeness of feeling these sensations out-of-context in order for them to take you where you want to go. Most of the good stuff is along the front (anterior) wall of the rectum (from an inch or two inside, right up to the sphincter-like entrance to the sigmoid colon--but usually not beyond that), which is to say on the side closest to your belly. The nerves involved in bladder function, peristalsis, and (in males, reproductive functions, including the prostate), the G-spot in women, and frankly the nerves ordinarily associated with defecation, are all inextricably interwoven into that area. You can pinpoint one or the other of these sets of nerves, and I find it helpful to know what feels like what (more important than knowing what the name of the nerve clusters are is just knowing where the various kinds of feelings are located inside you). Some are exclusively in one area, while others form a ring around your toy (or your man's cock). If it turns you on just thinking of sexually stimulating these places and feeling these things in that context, you're probably a good candidate for anal masturbation. You really need a strong libido in order to sexualize these feelings, and not just write them off as weird. I personally believe most people have what it takes, biologically, to become a hot mess of orgasmic thrashing from anal stimulation, but what most people lack is the acceptance and desire to embrace those feelings. Without that, they can never transport you to that out-of-this-world experience! Sadly, I was married many years before I had the courage to share my "secret" with my wife, damn fool that I am (or was). We've never been happier or closer since I got her involved, and I *became* the slut I always wanted in bed, and took that pressure off her! Since then, she's become reliably orgasmic as well--not from PIV intercourse, but rather finger penetration and a Hitachi Magic Wand. And she's not interested in anal herself. She's not a highly sexual person. But she has become extremely interested in sex since she became the penetrator instead of the penetrated. She loves making me cum, and she has taken charge of our sex life in a way I never dreamed of. This is a high-cost, high-reward undertaking, this anal masturbation. It costs you your preconceived notions of what's sexually "right" or "wrong," and even your notion of what's possible! If you can pay that price, and let go of those things, the potential reward is astronomical. I think it's harder for guys because of the whole "does this mean I'm gay?" crap. But since you're a girl, and you're expected to be penetrated (even anally, these days) during the normal course of events, and you're expected to be able to cum multiple times and potentially for an extended time, and finally since the vagina is internally so close to the same nerve clusters as the rectum, you really have an advantage over guys who are trying this out. Take your time, pamper yourself, and as you get more familiar with and turned on by the feelings inside your rear, just let yourself go, and enjoy whatever feelings you get. You can try clenching to see if it intensifies certain good feelings, or maybe pushing out will intensify them. Or maybe just riding them out and waiting for the next wave. With relaxed patience, sufficient experimentation and the right mental attitude, I believe anybody regardless of gender can have life-changing orgasms from anal penetration. But because of the cost, it's not for everybody. Good luck to you on your journey. I wish I was there to share with you, dear! Someday, you'll make somebody the luckiest person in the world if you keep your adventurous, enthusiastic attitude about sex, and manage to keep things safe and sane. All my love!
Very interesting read ! I have been playing with (wall mounted) dildos in my ass hundreds of time but still haven't been able to cum handsfree yet ! I want to go as deep as Ms Siswet on Chaturbate but quite frankly I don't know how to be able to get as deep as her ! Would love to be able to ! Any advice ?
