Bullied!

Well, he was probably pretty easy back then but not anymore.

And to be clear...in case it sounds like he ended up being some kind of diva or something....nothing could be further from the truth. Today, he is 20, a well-known fixture on the music scene. He's a professional. He's toured and has the right-of-first-refusal to play with any national act coming through the state with one of the booking agencies he works with. He gets label studio time with a simple phone call and anything he wants released is released. That said.....he's very socially conscience. I've noticed a big shift in his music towards the social issues he feels the most strongly about. I'm very proud of his stances about these issues and equality on all levels in general. I can tell that he spends a lot of time thinking about those topics. He clearly wants to use his music position to advance his social positions.

 

There's always been bullying, I was bullied myself, but I don't think it was as rampant then as it is now. There's now a whole class of "adult" bullies these kids have to look up to in music/media/movies and likely the parents are the "road rage big truck" type bullies themselves. So the kids are emulating what is being spoon fed to them as the way to get ahead in the world... Beat and threaten your way to the top.

 

I think it's always been that way. Sociopaths rise to the top and rule because they don't care who they step on or stab in the back. They are without emotion. The world seems crazy because the crazy people are in charge. I think when we are talking about bullies....it's just a microcosm of the larger picture of how the world really works. Why don't we have scientists, philosophers, etc in charge? Because they have too much decency to do what others will do to maintain power.

 

I don't remember sociopaths being role models when I was a kid...

 

We just didn't go to the right schools.

 

I was the small kid and was beaten regularly by a know bully. The authorities would do nothing about it. I suffered for six years in school with this a-hole. Years later, after he got out of prison for events unrelated to me, BAD THINGS HAPPENED TO HIM. He took a lot of work to put him back together.

 

I think everyone stopped bothering me when Im come to school with a 4ft rat snake and let it loose.. "who's the sissy now?"..

 

For starters

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyXhysmMNhE

 

Family meeting today. I have gotten myself calmed down now. Which can sometimes be a chore. It's hard to impress upon a young person that

she is letting others control her life by being reactive. I mean--these are 12 year old kids. I personally didn't have to go through it, so I don't REALLY know how this feels. I went through my own travails, but not this. Thanks for all the replies--I appreciate the input.-Joel

 

scratcho, I have been guilty of knee jerk reactions alot, too...hard to walk aaway...breathe.....get another perspective and get back to whatever issue is at hand....hard to do and remember in any heat of the moment.

hey, that is a song...heat of the moment.

 

Telling a 12 year old girl to "deal with it" is a very bad idea. The bullying today is much different than the kind we dealt with. If I had it to do all over again, I would have home schooled my kids from junior high on. One of my daughters was very harmed by some bullies behavior, very much so.

Montessori school sounds like a plan scratcho.

 

I love it but we had Eastern Diamond Back's not rat snakes so not possible in CT.

 

Update: her parents did jerk her right out of her school and they visited what sounds like a very nice school with (as they said) loving teachers and welcoming students too! Lots of art, music, gardening and a host of other pleasant things that should broaden her life in good ways. Let's hope. She'll be going there next year.

 

Sounds like a nice school. Good for them!