Sex With Alcoholic

LOLz

 

Considering he is having issues functioning during sex you might want to think about that label of "functional alcoholic". It sounds like you're dating a plain old fashioned alcoholic. There's no magic bullet here, it sounds like he has some major emotional issues, that alone is going to make a firm erection near impossible. How do you feel about him not looking you in the eyes during sex?

I agree with others who are saying run while you can, he's a disaster waiting to happen, and he might crash on YOU.

 

i have a small suggestion - try it out
give him lot of milk products, and add badham powder to it with sugar to taste

after a week he will perform well.
good luck

 

Thank you all...wasn't really the answer I was looking for but I know you're right!
The worry is, that'll be what tips him over the edge!

 

lol i remember when i had to take my pants off to get a woman off, too xD

 

Nobody changes. You either like them as they are, or don't bother.

Of course people do change, but for all intents and purposes, when we talk about changing people or getting people to change, nobody changes. Ever.

 

You're not in a position where you can tip him, only a position where you can be used as an excuse.

The longer you wait around, the more you become the excuse. And the more likely this is to become an emotionally abusive trainwreck for you that consumes the rest of your life.

 

Hi Starkissed. I think that you have heard enough of our comments on your relationship with an alcoholic. I will not trouble you with anything else after today.
Please, for your own good, think long and hard about the advise you have received. I'm willing to PM with you if you want to but I feel that by now you must realize that you have to make a decision for yourself.
Pray on this and then bite the bullet and make a decision for your own good.
Love,
Nurse Steve

 

My advice - get a husband

 

Eh...I have one!

 

I thought about my drug addiction today.

My behavior was pretty difficult to stomach for anyone who knew me from 1996 until... well, that depends on who you ask.

I stopped using hard drugs around 2000, returning only two or maybe three or four times to revisit a once serious methamphetamine habit. I remember smoking and then shooting meth for 1998 and then part of 1999; really probably only about a year total.

I was a pretty ill behaved guy! And as much as I wasn't skinny (I'm a little husky, and overweight, but not completely impossible to find slightly attractive; though also not exactly cute if I'm not mistaken) I was a little promiscuous too, and a little bit misogynistic in that my attitude was extra cavalier about having sex with women who partied with me - it was expected, and if not granted, then ridicule or at least sulking (massive sulking...) would ensue.

I probably threw a tantrum once or twice because I couldn't get a young woman's affection - I wasn't cute enough and she probably did not appreciate my presumptuous groping. I remember one young woman in particular in this scenario where I stuck my hand down her pants and was immediately reprimanded.

Let's stop there. While I didn't like (it still doesn't feel good) that I was reprimanded, she was correcting a behavior that is truly problematic and not gentlemanly conduct at all. It doesn't resemble my affinity today for adherence to moral standards when I interact with my love interest.

Admittedly, even today I ask for affection in ways that tests boundaries. Without giving an excuse, these days there is not a requisite amount of affection and I understand that if she's not in the mood, it just isn't going to happen and that has to be okay; though an explanation doesn't hurt and goes a long way toward maintaining the love in the relationship.

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Addiction plays less a role in my life than high school. Even so, the struggle is getting other people to understand and accept that I'm ready to move on and be a person they can more easily stomach...

I don't want addiction to play a role in my life and I lean toward religion in an effort to align with people in NA & AA; though I am not religious. I want my fiance to believe in me, and if I have anything to say about faith it's that nothing can better serve to align your motivations and aspirations with your community.

I want to love God; that's the truth. The hard part is embracing a belief, or system of beliefs that I officially believe in.

I had some agnostic and atheist friends around the time I was getting off drugs and coming to terms with an understanding that some people had a different or alternative sexual orientation and that I might have a different sexual orientation.

There were a few people who I felt were agnostic or atheist, and that led me to explore my psyche in ways that defy religious inclination.

 

I was an awful drunk, and in at least one relationship I became routinely belligerent when drunk.

I was an abuser, and even if I never punched, I found myself out of control with regularity.

My female acquaintances were tolerant of it, but I quickly wore out my welcome.

 

One of the things you say, if you expect things to fizzle out, I more than suspect that you are correct.
I had several alcoholic relatives, and both of my parents. I say hard because they’re all dead sooner than they should have died because of health problem with the combination of alcohol and cigarette. My mother was very scared of dying and that was the only reason she quit drinking and smoking. But the bottle had too much magnetic power on her and she started again.
It brings me to the point where I tell you that I know it will fizzle out because just like my relative, your lovers health will deteriorate increasingly.
Mark the words deteriorate increasingly.
Whether his behaviour will change over time when drunk, I can’t speculate on that. But I sense from what you write that it’s beginning to wear a thin on you, or maybe more than thin.

i’m not the bad news bear kind of guy or one to want to cause some thing because I said it, but it’s just a matter of time unless he cleans his act up. I loved my relatives dearly and my parents we’re good to me and my siblings, but I hated being around them when drunk and not necessarily because you’re violent or aggressive. Two of my siblings avoided visiting because of drunkenness stopped leaving their children in her care. That hurt her badly but Although we can’t always blame the alcoholics I will say it was her fault for refusing to make a change when knowing that all this alcohol created a wedge. Sadly it only took the doctors warning and a triple bypass to make her coming Although we can’t always blame the alcoholics I will say it was her fault for refusing to make a change when knowing that all this alcohol created a wedge. Sadly it only took the doctors warning and a triple bypass to make her coming to her senses. But more sadly it was just temporary and now she got severe complications to her health, some of the conditions she suffered from can’t be reversed anymore. It could have been possible at one time.

sorry for the long-winded story but giving you my perspective of things that are very possible to happen. There is always a chance your lovers daughter will carry something with her for the rest of her life even if he is a good father to her

 

I'm an alcoholic even though I haven't had a drink in over 30 years. Believe me when I tell you there is NOTHING you can do to help him. I have hurt everyone (emotionally) that I had a relationship with. The saying is true "Alcoholics don't have friends, they take hostages". I'm sorry I was so blunt but I don't like to see you hurting.