Is there a double standard in sexual fantasies?

I have seen quite a few posts about men having fantasies with sharing their wives with other men and their wives always seem to make their fantasies come true.

But, women never seem to have fantasies of sharing their husbands with other women......however they don't mind being shared with other men.

Why do women don't mind been shared with other men, but don't like to share their men with other women.
Iam sure there are a lot of guys who would like to be shared with another woman..

Nothing wrong with FMF threesomes are there?

 

nop, nothing wrong

it's just, that the MFM is more practical, and even if the wife is the one getting a double dose, its more times than not the husband's idea...

 

sith1 is right. I don't know that I could perform long enough to satisfy two women completely, but in a MFM threesome, most all woman would benefit from having sex with one more lover while her motor is still purring.

I have dated two or three women over the years that have told me they thought it would be hot to watch me have sex with one of their friends. So there, some women do fantasize about it. It is just not as common.

Let me find a survey stating results about this in a book that I have.

In a book entitled Are You Normal, about sex, love and relationship? The author Bernice Kanner writes about the results of sex surveys.

One question goes like this:

Do you imagine your partner doing it with someone else?
Answer: 54% of women, and 40.5% of men say they've never conjured of this fantasy.

So, it looks like 46% of women have fantasized about it, even if it is not at the top of their list.

In this study 59% of males have thought about it. It doesn't specify the gender of the OTHER person though.

If you compare how many women imagine their guy having sex with another girl, and how many guys imagine their woman with another guy, things may even out more, because many men imagine their girl in fem/fem action.

I imagine both, and I would rather watch my partner with a well endowed and long lasting guy, that knew how to work it, than with another women. I've already watched 2 of my partners do it with another woman. It is super hot, but I'd like to see her enjoy a man that she lusts after now.

 

I would love it if my wife would allow another man to join us for sex, but she has said no, I did not think far enough ahead before marrying her to see if she had an interest in doing these kind of sexual activities. I believe a lot of people are so in love and on their best behavior at that time that their true desires do not surface until after the '' honeymoon '' period has passed and things begin to get a little more hum drum and boring.

 

The OP is so correct. I would never allow my husband to be with another woman and would divorce him if he ever was. I am very jealous and I think it's how MOST women are wired. On the other hand, my husband likes sharing me with my ex and I LOVE IT! There is something very freeing about being wanted by multiple men that is very sexy.I told my husband that if we were going to make this work, that had to be the deal - the sex could only be for me.

 

So, does your husband watch you and your ex together or does he join in or something?
Just curious

I've thought here and there that it might be interesting to experience being shared. I specifically love the the thought of being watched. So, this interests me to some level.
But, I Would have a difficult time sharing my partner.
As greedy as it sounds, I'd have to agree with the sex only being for me as well.

 

I have in the past had threesomes IE me +2girls.Even my ex wife was up for it. My current wife who is 20 years younger than me wants to try it but that will be in her own time.
Going back to your question I suppose for me that there has to be a degree of equilibrium in the mindset of you both. If you can accept that its only a bit of kinky fun with no attatchments then it can enhance your relationship.
My one piece of advise to you would be chose who it is carefully or better still do it with someone you don,t know.
You never know who you might piss off in the future or who may hold it against you...x

 

My husband is purely a watcher. He strokes himself and watches the hot action! Being watched is such a turn on. Enjoy!

 

there is pretty much a double standard to everything. I am far from enlightened in terms of gender equality, but I do get a bit pissed off at how some women are portrayed online, and I love to objectify and use females... so, call me a hypocrit if you like. It''s a complicated subject.

In terms of the threesome thing, it is a matter of personal boundaries. My first was MFF and my 2nd and 3rd as well, but the MMF one with my GF was very hot... sh ewas wetter the next morning then she was the night before,a nd she was plenty wet then...

 

I would love my husband to watch me with another man, but I don't know if we could ever make it a reality.

 

The truth in all honesty, in regards to the stories and kinks you read on the forums is that, these "stories" are exactly that.

Now a few here and there might have a little truth to them, but you see a general pattern on Internet forums when it come to threads like this.

IMO. Most of this is just a fantasy typed out. It's an experience they wish to have, but isn't happening and so we all have to read about it. Sometimes imagination isn't enough, or imagination is best expressed through creative writing. And so we now have numerous wife sharing posts probably from dudes with no missus at all, or from husbands who aren't able to express their sexuality because of their partners. The fetish takes over most of the daily thinking for these guys.

And these stories and threads help other guys in the same position and they can think to themselves hey I'm not the only one in this predicament.

But it's mostly fluff IMO.