Neither Of Us Feeling Anything During Sex

Discussion in 'The Orgasmic Experience' started by billly31, Jun 1, 2015.

  1. billly31

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    So, me and the girl I'm seeing started having sex and we have done it 3 times over the last week but neither of us are feeling anything from penetration. We do a lot of foreplay before hand and I am hard and she is wet. She has had sex before but never orgasmed and I was a virgin before (we are both over 18). I have an average sized penis (5.8 inches hard) so that shouldn't be a problem. We do missionary and cowgirl (she said she's not comfortable with other positions). We are both into each other and have fun and laugh while doing it and are not really nervous.

    What are we doing wrong?

    Any help would be much appreciated
     
  2. buzzgunner

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    Apparently not deep enough! :)
     
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  3. billly31

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    Very funny :p, any real advice though?
     
  4. Sleeping Caterpillar

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    Take off the condom and start pulling out
     
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  5. buzzgunner

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    Sadly, no. When you say that neither of you feel anything, do you mean it's like you're both numb, or just not getting any sexual stimulation? What about masturbation? Can either of you achieve orgasm that way? If the answer is "No", I'd say you both need to see a medical professional soon.
     
  6. billly31

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    I mean that we are not getting much sexual stimulation, sometimes for a few seconds but then it goes away. I can pretty easily achieve orgasm from masturbation myself, she has not.

    I'm not going to take off the condom, that is not worth the risk.
     
  7. AstralBear

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    Has she ever been sexually assaulted, raped, and or molested?
     
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    flick the bean..
     
  9. skip

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    What drugs are you doing?
     
  10. billly31

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    I don't think she has, and I do finger her before and she is wet before I go in.

    Neither of us do any street drugs, though I am on prescription drugs for my muscle pain. I also don't drink.
     
  11. AstralBear

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    Narcotic pain medicine can affect your sex. My wife took paxil (A SSRI) and yaz (Birth control), which both affected her ability to orgasm.
     
  12. billly31

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    But it hasn't affected my ability to orgasm during masturbation at all, In fact I did it this morning just fine. And she isn't on any meds.
     
  13. AstralBear

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    Do you feel any anxiety during sex? Are you attracted to that woman?

    A lot of women can't orgasm, but she can check into something called vagina de-armoring.
     
  14. Sleeping Caterpillar

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    Try penetration for like 5 seconds just to see the results.
    You may need a different type of condom to feel the sensations better. They can truly take out ALL of the pleasure from both partners
     
  15. billly31

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    I am definitely attracted to her, do not feel any real anxiety (no problem getting and staying hard) and we have tried a different type of condom every time.
     
  16. drumminmama

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    Ok, taking orgasm off the table, is the sensation enjoyable?

    It's pretty common for women to need direct clitoral stimulation, and if all you have done is hand work, the different pressure takes some acclimation.
     
  17. Ashalicious

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    Are you using too much lube? It has happened to me in the past where I start to lose sensation because of too much lubrication...
     
  18. billly31

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    No lube and like I said the sensation is enjoyable for a couple seconds sometimes and then I can't feel anything. I know it can be difficult for women but I haven't gotten close to orgasm either.
     
  19. secret_thinker

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    You only mention two positions, have you tried others?
     
  20. mathias0815

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    what advice you're expectating? one, you take and than the whole thing rolls by itself? get rid of your expecations - as well as your gf (expectations).... and if that's not enough stick your beloved piece in completely, don't move for a minute, just relax both of you... some results will come out of it ;-) [curious: which one?]
     

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