It Seems Like Everyone Is Making Babies.....

nieces and nephews are enough for me

ill never have any of my own but if i fall for a girl that already has some i would treat them as my own

 

No kids here.

 

this is why gay is good, even though i'm not attracted that way. there's way too many humans already. and i'd rather see fewer being born, then more dying younger.

 

Looks like the world is going to run out of fresh water in 50 yrs or less

And at 10 billion people the time it takes to desalinate enough required per day isnt possible

I know what it sounds like coming from a non breeder, but population control probably.will be our downfall

Bah humbug

 

I've heard that nobody truly grows up until they have kids. Yet another reason not to do it.

 

I've been teetering with this decision lately myself, Ash. I do want kids, but I struggle with the population issue, which doesn't seem to stem from people having one or two children, but from the reckless and uninformed reproduction of people in poverty, it seems. Or wealthy people who don't take care to minimize their impact. I think the effect can be negated if you're aware of how your actions effect the plant. I don't have a good answer.

But then, you need to consider whether or not you could tolerate a serious decrease in your ability to come and go as you please, spend most of your time and money on yourself, do whatever you want when you want to do it. Or, do you prefer to live with another person coming first. That's a tough one, especially when you're young and are used to a lot of freedom. How would your lifestyle change if you had children? I don't know if mine would change, too much.

As far as time and resources--you probably can't wait until these things fall in place until you have kids, you might never have them. But, you also shouldn't put yourself or your offspring at risk for chronic poverty. So, if you and/or a mate both have a stable source of income, or some sort of reasonable fallback, that might be enough.

It's an overwhelming choice! But, I know plenty of happy moms and dads who manage to balance parenthood and personal life--still have a lot of fun and keep up a sane or alternative lifestyle. It doesn't have to result in being miserable/having no fun forever.

 

I'm turning 30 in a few days and I still don't feel that biological clock ticking. My wife is only 26 though.

 

Lolz, I think you'll find they are just happy around you. A reminder of times when they were young and uncumbered for those moms, something to look at for those dads.

They still have a lot of fun do they? Lolz

 

I think a lot of the world's problems are caused by overpopulation, so don't have kids! I mean if you really really want them do it, but otherwise don't add to the problem.

 

I'm too selfish for children. I always hear you have a child so they can experience everything you haven't. Lol. Fuck that, no way no kid of mine gonna end up with a better life than I did, not gonna happen on my watch. Perish the thought.

Nooooope I'll be without child enjoying my AWESOME body!! And I'll stay up late, and I'll party hard and you won't hear no lame excuses from me and I'll party all through dem school nights too, like a motherfucker, twist and turning and banging my head. unk:

 

Young women get a lot of social pressure to conform on this decision. See it for what it is!

 

It's seen as selfish to not have children but I've always said it's selfish to have children because, and I always say it, but I just can't find and reason that's 100% genuine for having children in the first place. It's not like we need the population. It's not like we need to breed a really smart scientist.. Which is aargh anyway if people think they have that in them but I can't find one decent answer other than the obvious: you wanted one. Now that's the pure selfishness I see.

 

its my life to live, and its not like having kids is gonna make me live longer or anything.

 

^ also have them in moderation. 2 at most.
While people like the Duggers who have 20+ kids. And Why? What purpose? Those are the selfish people who have kids. I guess the draw of money and a reality show has its benefits just ask that mole Kate + 8.

Here in Australia we had a time in early in the 00's when they handed out baby bonuses to encourage people to have baby's as the population was getting "too old". The backlash was now we have unemployed 15-18 yr old mothers who now live at home, with 1-2 babys because the lure of a little free money from the government was to much to pass. They hadn't figured in the long term affect of having a child or two, the lure of material items was too much. Which I guess was the real reason of the hand outs, to boost retail sales.

I have a 6 yr old and raise him by myself, no help from his mother or family and my family is in the states. But I wouldn't change it.
It is hard as you loose any freedom and you do, I don't care what any ones friends with kids say and if they have any freedom it is because they have lots of babysitters (friends and family) lol Think about it the next time they ask you to watch lil Timmy for the night, then look back at how many times you looked after lil Timmy for the night lol

Have em if you will and it is eye opening and rewarding but don't elude the fact that your way of life is going to change lol but not in a bad way, well sometimes especially when you meet someone and tell them you are a happily broke, single parent, they tend to start looking at the watch real quick lol

 

In regards to the body thing, I worry about that as well, as I don't look forward to having to sacrifice mine to a baby. I will say, however, that I have three girlfriends who have all recently had little babies in the last year, and, no joke, all of them look AMAZING. Apparently breast feeding burns a ton of calories.

 

SO MUCH PRESSURE. FROM PARENTS, FRIENDS, DISTANT FAMILY. It drives me INSANE.

 

This is where my rebel side comes out. When people pressure me hard to do something, it makes me want to do the opposite.

 

I always hated the "But don't you want a family", drove me nuts. Baby <> family.

 

My sister was like that but she took a no nonsense approach to her diet too. None of this.. Cakes and cakes things some go through.

 

Its so insensitive to pressure others about having kids. For all your friends and family know, you're struggling with fertility issues.

My sister is basically infertile and I cringe everytime someone asks her when she's going to have kids.

Even though that isn't the case here, the choice to have children is really personal and I think its so rude to question people about it.