New Here, Seeking Guidance.

That is a good point, and surprisingly I have been on the other end of this situation (though still not sure on how to be in the situation I am not). Honestly it was a little hurtful at first and perhaps felt like a betrayal that the man I was with hadn't told me before that he felt that way. Though, after communication and a little introspection, I decided that in caring for him, I cared about his personal development and did not want to stand in the way of that. I supported taking a break from our relationship so that he could decide for himself, and as it may be aware, we are not still together. My current boyfriend knows of this part of my past so that is perhaps even more discouraging for him since it did not have a happy ending.

 

Post above meant to keep the quote in.

 

Again you falsely assume that I have lost interest in him or do not fantasize about him. I started this thread for advice, not because I put fantasizing about women above my currently relationship. I do not believe that my being honest with myself and considering something new about my sexual tastes disrespects him or make me lesser of a girlfriend. As I have mentioned, this is an open conversation with him as well, not just online.

 

You are very right and caught me in a mis-choice of words. It is not the ending that my current partner wishes for us, but was an amicable and necessary ending in the past that I neither regret nor resent. I have grown from all of my past experiences and of course will grow from wherever this current relationship leads to. It is frightening to possibly cause somebody pain, but as you said it would be a long-lasting struggle if we did not allow ourselves to sort this out sooner than later.

I'm really appreciating the honesty and questions from this forum that I might not have gotten in conversations with biased friends or family. It has definitely made me think in different ways and dissect my feelings and thoughts.