White Guilt

I think the majority of people from all races stick to hanging out with people they can identify with culturally. It is natural.

I do like getting to know people from other cultures and races that I come across in my day to day life...we are friendly with the black family across the street in a slightly distanced, neighborly way. I know them better than any other neighbors but still not very well. There is a really cool Indian couple who run a gas station I go to a lot, I know that's stereotypical as fuck, they are from Gujarat and teach us a word or phrase of Gujarati everytime we go in. We always try to be friendly and show interest in the culture of the families who run the couple of ethnic restaurants we eat at frequently. But I doubt these people will ever go from being acquaintances to friends, unless they wanna come do stereotypically white things with me like brunch, antiquing, and camping. And that's okay.

I was just kidding about the brunch, etc but I guess I actually really do all those things lol

I've always suspected at some point I would feel very embarrassed if I had a good black girl friend, because I have white girl rhythm and dancing would inevitably come up at some point in our friendship

 

My family is well documented to have used human machinery in Missouri. That was in the 1800s. I wasn't there.

 

Well at least there is hope for the future.
I will have to say that for all intents and purposes, my three youngest daughters are pretty much colorblind as evidenced by their friends who span all races.
For the first year #4 was at college she was pretty much the oddball as all her friends were black males.
She said she would occasionally get sideways looks from black girls when they all went to sports events and stuff off campus, but whatever was her attitude.

If I go off with some racial remarks around here, I usually get my ass handed back to me by my daughters....LOL.

 

I grew up in a predominantly white town but as a kid I had lots of non white friends. Racial integration and segregation never phased me until I got to high school where the Hispanics had their own clique and wouldn't affiliate with you if you didn't speak any Spanish. My room mate is a black Senagalise guy who is here on a visa. My boss who happens to be the best employer I've ever had is black as well.

 

In my head it sounds ok.

In my heart, having someone else wash my dirty underwear seems wrong.

 

that's why i pay someone to wash my clean underwear.

 

Your suicidal ideation probably has more to do with being addicted to freebasing cocaine and alcoholism that it does with white guilt.

Maybe try an NA meeting or therapy. I'm not sure what else to say to help you.

 

Sadly, the fact you even thought about it shows unwarranted guilt.

Why should anyone show any guilt over our friends or acquaintances. To even have a second thought about it shows that over the last 2 generations or so, the constant bombardment of racial blame has taken a foothold in the Human psyche.

This is played on both parts. Black insist racism by whites and whites have begun to admit the maybe it is our fault. Therefore that leads the Black community to say' see we are right' and the white community to acknowledge the un-fact as fact and succumb to the idea; which intern, we form guilt.

It is not white guilt, it is guilt on BEING white.

 

It was more of just an observation on my part.

 

How did you know I freebase?

 

I grew up in an all-white neighborhood (with my family of course being the exception) so by default most of my friends were white. The few black friends I had who lived in primarily black neighborhoods were more than open to having white friends.

As a matter of fact they would regularly drive up to Vermont specifically to pick up white girls. Or as a friend of mine described: “fuck our way across Vermont”


Hotwater

 

Because you started a thread about it

 

I had some opportunities in college. Second year, I dated a black guy for a month or two.

 

Being addicted to cocaine is a form of White guilt. AMIRITE?

 

i probably would if there were any. most people have one or two minor aspects or interests i can sort of relate to up to a point, but i doubt very much i've ever met anyone i could say this for a majority of their personality, perspectives, cultural values, et al. (and that of any race, gender, intelligence, ideology, belief, and so on either.)

 

I’d be much more impressed if you watched the movies ‘Dark Girls’ or ‘Good Hair’
Hotwater

 

i'm more impressed by anything people make themselves then by their watching or buying anything.

 

I can't see why or what,all this fuss is about.
Whether you tell your secrets to,share your bed with,or just work with them,they're just people-that's what they are....people.
If your best friend is a goat and the only person allowed in your bed with you is a horse,THEN you have problems.
Not liking someone because their customs are different,or their flesh is darker on one side [the inside is still wobbly purple] or they don't 'speak proper'.....nah. I can't be arsed to hate anyone.....not even Yooper Guy-and HE stole my crystal slingbacks!