Do I Have A Right To Be Upset?

iv been trying all year to bring up my gpa. and i have iv gone from a 1.6 to a 1.8 but this is the last quarter of my senior year i need a 2.0 to graduate, and not only that but im going to fail my math course because i cant wrap my head around one set of equations. so now im gonna need to repeat my senior year (yes i am allowed to stay in school until im 22 if neccesary) and everything is just completely fucked. so today my mother tried to reassure me and tell me everything was gonna be ok, and i get it she is trying to make me feel better and im grateful however the more she talks about it the more i have to think about it the more depressed i get, so i told her i dont wanna talk about it and than my stepdad calls me an asshole, now i ask you am i an asshole or am i justified in being a little upset

 

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what do rights and being upset have to do with each other?
being upset happens. being inconsiderate on the part of anyone doesn't have to.
the only right made by two wrongs is a political right wing.

 

It's understandable that you're upset. And your stepdad shouldn't have called you an asshole.

 

Firstly your Mum should respect the fact you've chosen not to discuss this any further (Or until further notice when you're ready)and secondly if my husband was calling any of my kids an arsehole,he'd have to apologise and then I'd kick him out.

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

Since when is it acceptable to call your (and in this case his stepchild)an arsehole?Personally Im not into abusive relationships,hence why I ended my first marriage

 

If You Think One Commonly Used Word Can End A Marriage........Perhaps You Are The Problem Not Him....... .

Just A Thought.



Cheers Glen.

 

I wonder how you put this to your mother, for him to call you that?

 

Did you politely tell your mum you didn't want to discuss it and maybe some other time or were you snappy with her because you were stressed and tense?
Was your stepdad reacting to your reaction and maybe will apologize when he also settles down? Or is he always putting you down?

Anyone has a right to be upset about things but you have to be willing to look at other sides and come to some kind of resolution within yourself about how you will deal with it for your own happiness.

Too often things are looked at as black and white when they rarely are.

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

Think of all the people in the world that dont get to go to University.


Then think of me, I went to Uni twice and now make a crap load of money in a field totally unrelated to the time I wasted at University

 

I wouldn't tolerate a partner that always swore at or put down my kid. But like I said in my previous post, most things are rarely black and white.

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

i said and i quote "i don't wanna talk about it anymore" and i said it in what i believe to be a calm and neutral tone, just to clear up any future confusion

 

omg tell me, how does one get a job like that
i want to make a crap load of money too
i like money

 

1. You have the right to be upset.

2. Your stepdad has the right to call you an asshole, especially if you acted like one.

3. Anyone has the right to say, do, think, and feel anything they way to another person. However, a lot of the stuff we want to say and do is restricted by law. Things that we want to think and feel is restricted by society. And the rest is restricted by our own morality, psychosocial development, and just overall kindness, consideration for others.

So, yea... you both have the right to be upset, but you could have both handled it better. He didn't have to call you an asshole, even if you were acting like it. Just like you could have not pushed your mom away, when she was just trying to help.

 

he isnt buying a house

 

"I don't want to talk about it any more" can't not hear that as Napoleon Dynamite.

You should have given some explanation/thanked her for being supportive/explained that you appreciate her advice but that the conversation was getting you down, rather than just shutting her down.

But hindsight is 20/20