Why Are So Many People So Less Giving With Sex?

Some people have emotions and need/desire emotional connections beforehand. It's not something to "give up" for everyone. Same way you wouldn't chug champagne, somethings are best enjoyed when done slowly, as to fully savor the experience.

 

I'm not making a judgement I'm just trying to understand why. I mean people do all sorts of stuff I don't understand. There are people who don't like to leave their house and just want to watch TV, I'll never understand that. But that is how they want to live their lives and that is fine.

Since leaving my community I've met people that seem to like the same values we had back home and all the community stuff we did. We never ate alone, watching TV was a community thing, we shared gardening, we built and made and found stuff for each other, as well as a bunch of other things that help make a community strong. But when it comes to our sexual practices I've yet to find anyone who shares the beliefs I was taught, or even agrees with them. People don't seem to understand it and seem to view it the same way I see people who don't leave the house and just watch TV all day. As a lifestyle choice that they should just let life, and that is the best case scenario.

And I don't understand why they don't understand. It isn't like sex is just some pointless ritual that bonds us. It serves several important functions in our community from mental health, physical health, setting social roles, keeping our community happy, as well as the bonuses of the more you practice the better you get and pointless ritual that bonds us.

If people don't want to share themselves that is their right and privilege. But I just don't get what people will share eveything else except this one thing.

 

Depending upon where you live, sex ain't hard to find. In So Cal, it's easy to find. There are a lot of divorced women in So Cal that are looking for men.

STD's have modified my behavior a whole lot. My age group ranks second of HIV infection.

If my girlfriend and I were to break up, I'd go with a blood test prior to sex. Sex is not worth risk of a permanent disease or disease that kills.

BTW, I've met only one woman who had admitted that she had herpes. She told me she was not in an outbreak and protection would prevent transmission. I declined.

 

 

 

Well I'm in the Hudson Valley in New York. People here are pretty high strung as a general rule. And yes I was always taught to practice safe sex.

Part of it is also how you get it too. Like if you needed someone, a friend, to help you fix your car. If they said "sure let's go do it right now that will take less than an hour. No problem." Wouldn't that be better than say, they do it but complain the whole time, they do it but then don't want to talk to you afterwards and you don't really get why, they say they will do it but blow you off later, or you have to pay them to do it. The relationship has to remain good afterwards.

 

pretty sure i've done this once or twice.

 

Damn, I mean was it bad champagne? Are you the type to skip foreplay as well?

 

i just really liked getting shitfaced in my younger years.

 

My god man it sounds like you were brought up by Bonobos!

C/S,
Rev J

 

 

 

I don't know what that means. I'm pretty well read for my age but you got me on that one.

 

Google Bonobo mating habits.

C/S,
Rev J

 

 

 

Huh. Yeah I guess I can see some of those similarities. It makes perfect sense to me.

 

Why the fuck do you keep inserting &nbsp? It is perfectly customary to put a break in between the body of a text and a sign off.

C/S,
Rev J

 

 

sorry.

 

I've been researching this topic for about four years now (since I left my then-wife). She only gave it to me, well, very seldom. Like pity sex.
Our first six months together we fucked and sucked all the time. And then, just like any other relationship, the sex fell out. Once a Month. For the next 18 years.

After five years together, her sis and friends convinced her she hadn't "gotten around". So they hooked her up with other men, she denied it, they made a joke out of me (in a half indirect way, of course).
I've learned a lot during my "marriage". I kept it together so I could take my kid when it was time (in my state, kid has to be 11 to choose).

I'm so goddamn glad I'm rid of her cvnt f'n ass! She does things to impress others. Still is to this day.

My best friend is having issues too. Dead Bed. 50yo. Sex is done. Her own daughter told my friend he's just around to give her money. He quits giving her money, she'll kick him out. I can't stand her. Control freak #1.
I know there are a lot of women like this, it makes them feel powerful. This won't happen to me again. No sex, I'm gone. Like, now.
I absolutely will never put up with Dead Bed Syndrome power game again. At all. I will buy sex 3 or 4 times a month before I succomb to this modern feminist horseshit.
OK I'm done ranting. I've just seen, and watched a lot of that crap in my life.

 

I always thought   was something that happened when the forums malfunctioned...but he's actually typing that? Weird. Ha! I guess you learn something new every day!

 

I agree. The bottom line for me is that having sex is not a necessity for having a fulfilling life. Don't get me wrong, having sex with someone is wonderful, but if I don't have it, it's not the end of the world.

 

 

Well I am using a public wifi hotspot we my roommate changed a few settings so It always does that when I hit quote. I didn't really notice so I just erase it now.

 

 

It isn't the end of the world, but I got used to having a lot of sex and I'm 17 so I'm supposed to be wanting sex all the time.

 

Agree 100%.

Aww hell nah.

They have the ones they utilize for money and stability(the Joes), because they are geniuses when it comes to manipulation, then they have ones they use for sex(the Chads). Avoid becoming the former.

"I don't want sex anymore" within a serious relationship = GTFO and don't look back!

 

Sex is the key foundation to humanity. Those who believe you can have a fulfilling life without it are I'm afraid in total denial.

By far the biggest reason for breakdown of relationship s is a mixed match of sex drives or strong desires for certain acts of sexual pleasure to be fulfilled.

Most denie it as its easier to say I don't love you anymore or I've found someone else than to say you don't give me what I need sexualy.

On the other hand how many times do we seem totally unsuitable couples stay together as they are near perfectly matched sexualy.

I know this as I've tried to help couples sort out relationship issue and it always comes down to sex lack of incompatibility. Either regularity or certain acts that are craved. To suddenly find out you will never get that again is going to chew way at you.

Many will say this is so shallow and I've can override it. Also and I agree nobody should have to do something sexualy if they don't want too. All very true but and its a massive but. Being human makes us think we should've able to control our thoughts, practice restraint. However we are animals , mammals to b exact and our bais desires run deep and cannot be denied.

Sex is at our core denies this and you will have an unforfilling life.