How should I (the boyfriend) treat a Hot Wife?

I’m meeting a woman this weekend that has been in a 30-year relationship and she is looking for a boyfriend. I’ve chatted a little bit with her (enough to be comfortable that this thing has a pretty good chance of actually being real – she hasn’t asked me to buy anything, yet) and she tells me that she is happily married but that her AND her husband want to add this to their relationship. I’m sure that we will discuss exactly what she wants but I’d like to get some opinions. I tend to be the guy that ends up as a woman’s friend (NOT boyfriend). Yes, I’m “that guy”. The nice guy… I guess that’s why, at age 47, divorced, attractive, have all my hair, in great physical condition and (I must be) the town’s most eligible bachelor but I’m single and looking for alternate ways to satisfy my urges. Women tend to not want to have sex with the nice guy!

My guess is that I still treat her like a lady but with an emphasis on wanting to bang her! Do I push for sex on the first date? Do I push?? Is that what she is looking for? Aggressive? She says that one reason that she is doing this is to feel attractive and wanted.

 

From the way that you describe yourself, I would have thought that you would have needed buckets of cold water to keep the girls at bay.

 

Except for one problem...I'm the nice guy. I'm learning that woman only want to talk to me about the men they have sex with. I'm trying to change this!!

 

You may be partly to blame, by considering that the transition from friendly relationship to a sexual one happens overnight. In reality, it can take several months. Life is rarely as portrayed in the movies or in romantic novels. The danger with watching a film, is that you tend to ignore the time frame and imagine that romances blossom (and sometimes end) all within 90 minutes.

 

Slip your hand up under her blouse to start with. If she lets you do that then take the other hand and head south with it. If she's really wet and moist, the bases are already loaded, just hit the Grand Slam!

 

I am. That’s one of the things I’m learning. But, I recently dated a psychologist for several months before telling her that I wanted to escalate. She basically told me that she wanted to be friends and went on to explain that I wasn’t aggressive enough to satisfy her biological needs. Guess I shouldn’t have asked…

 

I like how you think.

 

Wat Kathy said.

 

Its funny how they phrase it isnt it.

Her AND her husband want to "add" this to their wonderfully blissful happy marriage

Add what?, another guy to bang her because he is bored stupid of doing it and/or he prefers 22 year old hookers and/or he can only get hard if he sticks something up his butt

 

Simple compatibility. We got married when we were young and hotness was all that mattered. Funny thing is, it lasted for 20 years. Mainly because we had kids. We get along pretty good now though.

 

I don't judge. I think people should be more open about sex. People are waayyy to uptight.

 

The "husband wants to add this" bit is a big clue. My guess is that this is an initial meeting to see if you fit in with their cuckolding fantasy.
My guess is that "husband wants to add this" means "our goal is a sexual relationship. Yes friendly, but primarily sexual"

Are you going to have sex on this first meeting? Prob. not, that would be the second meeting in their vetting the new bf scheme.

Since you seemed comfortable talking to the psychiatrist lady, you should use that comfort to ask this woman what she and her husband are looking for.

But my guess is that this a vetting meeting, its going to be more about your grooming than your personality or a potential life relationship.

 

I assume that this is the interview. Since I really have no idea how these things work, I was just wondering if I’d be expected to take her off to the sack first thing. Thanks for your comments Mike.

 

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Don't be pushy, and treat her with respect. I had joined other couples (spur of the moment) before another man joined me and my wife. She had been with him once before in a swing club setting, but wanted 2 men at the same time. He knew what he was doing, and said things that made us both feel relaxed. For me in unplanned setting, I never knew if things might turn sour or not. Don't be afraid to say nice things to her.

 

married women dont want respect lol, thats why they want a bf cause hubby too goodie2shoes.

 

This was 9 days ago....so either it went bad, or far more likely this was all made up.
Imagine that.

 

Your not meeting a woman to be a couple she is looking for sex. Your worry about it she likes you if she is chatting an wants to meet she thinking about sex. She is married fuck her an tell her that's want you are going to do.
She is married an talking to you it's all about sex fuck her an move on dude.

 

IMO if you have to ASK how to treat your wife or husband are you sure you are ready for a marriage after all.