or is sex a little over rated. I dont know. Maybe I'm just weird or something but I dont see what is soo wonderful about it. quite frankly, i find it painful most of the time...
You're young yet...When you find the right person, it will be wonderful. *smiles* I was much like you...then I got more practice...now I can make even the most terrible lover seem wonderful *laughs*
No, sex is not over rated. I didn't start to REALLY enjoy sex until I was about 24 or so. At that point the freak was unleashed and there is no hope..haha. It'll get better for ya, you're still pretty young.
I think peoples desire for sex goes in and out. The main thing is you have to be stimulated. It's really hard to MAKE yourself stimulated. When I was younger I was a horn goddess. I wanted it always and whenever I could. If I couldn't have it, I'd settle for teasing the hell out of my guys dick until he gave it to me. It had to be three times a day every day. Now I've lost that almost completely. I still desire sex but not NEARLY as strongly. (In my case, I think it's hormonal). Sometimes sex with him is just so amazing. Sometimes it's a little painful because I'm not really turned on. I think sexual desire ebbs and flows. And what the previous people said before me, you've got to be with someone you like. They just turn you on. And your body's got to want it.
practice makes perfect. give it a lil time and it wont hurt. honestly enjoying the person you're with is important. if the sparks between you two are so hot that you can feel energy and anticipation radiating off each other...chances are the sex will be pretty damn good. having sex just because its sex is not going to ensure fireworks. the bond and/or chemistry between two people that are going to have sex is what ensures the fireworks.
I think sex isnt over rated at all, i think its actually underrated. We dont credit its effects on our lives as much as we should have. Its actually the biggest aspect in my religion, so sex for me is going to church . Church, hmm, speaking of overrated. lol Find a partner you love, and learn to worship them for the God or Goddess that the are, and to be worshipped back in the same effect, and sex will be the most magical thing you have ever experienced. I can think of no way to be closer to Goddess than pleasuring a woman. I love the way I worship.
I don't know if it is overated, only lean towards it is. I have been without over a year and no loss felt. I have barely any libido and it brings forth too many compications and stuff. I guess maybe I am too self absorbed to sincerely be with another. Besides, sex only makes me tired. If I were in love then it would be much different...love the very thing that made me this. Fridgid cold bitter shell of a man....bastard!
your not weird at all, perhaps your lover isnt taking his time with you. A young woman needs to be romanced, some soft sweet talk, gentle touching, kissing, she needs to be relaxed and feel safe and comfortable, is your man taking care of you this way ? Perhaps your not properly lubricated and need a little extra help ?
Dancer Annie is right! i didn't mind sex in the beginning...but since having alot of practice with one particular partner it is so awesome now...of course there are still duds..but that just means you guys dont connect properly... last guy i was with was the best for both of us..but mentally we didnt like each other..ah, ya win some ya lose some..but it def gets better..untill you miss its existence way too much!
You see this is a good example of the kind of dork you dont want ! Well then theres foreplay and he goes on to quote some stupid song ? Maybe thats what he thinks foreplay is ? Stay away from dorks that wont help !
