Had sex with a girl can’t get her off my mind

I'm intrigued by how others live their love lives. I don't judge, but it's always mystified me that some can sleep around, while in a serious relationship with one other person. I don't know how I'd keep tack of my roller coaster emotions through something like that!

 

Considering your circumstances, I'd keep banging her. This opportunity would be a shame to waste. Just make sure she understands you're loyal to your wife. Your "feelings" for her will marinate and mature into what they should be: a wonderful human being with whom you get to share some fantastic moments knowing it's fleeting in the big picture.

The more you see her, the more you'll realize her flaws and what would make her difficult to live with. No one's perfect, but you're clearly on point enough to know what a great thing you and your wife have going, and won't disrupt that. Show your wife your deep appreciation for her as a lifetime partner, and this girl for her momentary presence and sexual bliss. There should be no problem as long as everyone's clear on their roles.

 

You should not see her anymore if you want to save your marriage.

Send me pics of this girl and her address and phone number. I will save your marriage.

 

I'm interested in other relationships too, but more so I like hearing about the ones that don't work so I can learn on how to improve mine. As I've gotten older though and that lustful puppy love grows out of you I'm watching my friends now maturing, breaking up, divorce, mystery.. It's all very very interesting. And it only gets better as you age, the stories I mean. I've gone on some swinging dates with couples 20 years older than me and they have some interesting stories too about people they know or knew etc.

I'm not nosey by any means, but I find myself drawn to the negative emotions in a failing relationship but like I said, I believe I harness that energy into positivity in my own relationship.

 

You probably have already disappered from this site, but The fact that you reacted that way pretty much tells me everything

You are 37, your wife is 34, you have been "swinging for years".....let me guess, that started around the 7 year itch, so probably together or married for 12 or so years....and your wife has been getting more action than you

Guys like you will use phrases like open minded, talk about honest communication with your wife and how you two discuss everything, dont keep secrets from her

......and yet, you have gone at least 5 years, if not the entire time you two have been together, with her just assuming she is just going to get dumped at some stage for a younger woman, if not this one then the next one. Your wife knows you better than you do, After only a few sentences, I know you better than you do

You split with the wife for this one and you end up looking like the bad guy, even though your wife has spent the last 10 years fucking more people - but no one really saw any of that

The funniest part is, you said this 25 yr old is extra dirty with you, you still have to work out why that is, a 25 yr old with a 37 yr old.....you have to work out how old she was when her dad was 37 and what he looked like at the time. Not necessarily the case, but if it is, shit is fucked up

 

Ultimately only you and your wife can decide what is right for your marriage. I've had the "feels" at times over the years for a few men that have usually ended in heartache, but I never let that stop me. I enjoy that feeling of a new relationship too much. But that's me. Like I said you have to decide for yourself.

 

New love... or better described as infatuation,
What a feeling indeed!

 

Just an update. I saw her from early April until late June. To make a long story short she got a b/f and stop seeing me. She text me every now and then and says hey or whatever it seems to always be when they are fighting. I love my wife more than anything but to be honest I still think about this girl every day. If I were single we would be together. She’s the only girl I’ve felt like this about since my wife and I have been open and that’s been 10 years now. I know I’m better off not seeing her but ugh.

 

We are in an open relationship albeit one sided. She has medical issues and no interest. I am still very virile and have other partners. I became infatuated with a partner once and when I realized what was happening I moved on. It looks like you had a good time with your young spinner girl both sexually and emotionally. She had a good time with you until. Do you think she cares for you outside of a sexual relationship? Read between your own lines in your writing. She is looking to you for comfort when things are tough with her boyfriend but broke off all other contact including sex. That's why she texts you when they are fighting. Does she contact you when she might be wanting sexual relief? Probably not. At your first meeting you and she talked for a couple of hours and hung out and joked around followed by some pretty amazing sex. That's enough for anybody to become enamored with another sex partner even though the partner doesn't have the same feelings in return. You think that if you were single you would be with this spinner in a relationship stronger than just a sexual one. That's a statement that is pretty bold especially since your spinner doesn't feel the same about you. It's apparent as she has moved to another sex partner and so should you. I agree with your wife and believe your infatuation will pass in time. Do you have some issues with your wife having more partners than you? Maybe subconsciously but you did mention it in one of your posts. She isn't to concerned about your feelings for this spinner plus with your experience at an open marriage, 14 years and continuing, there may have been times where she encountered the same feelings for a partner she had. She may have just controlled it and didn't bother to tell you about it. Or she may have never had any feeling like you are experiencing now but trusts and knows you are dedicated to her as a spouse. I do believe you should refrain from anymore contact with the spinner and if she does contact you be cordial but become distant to her issues. Also, find another sex partner outside of your marriage that you can enjoy as soon as possible. I hope this helps with your dilemma.