fuhgeddaboudit...part 1

Like who?

 

Just try to weed out those people and focus on the real advice

 

If you like him go for it. Age is a number and at 20 years old 100 years ago you would probably have been married for 2 with kids by now. But 32 is a different place in life too. Honestly he just might like a pretty young lady like you and he will not really be interested in a real relationship just the you being a "prize" to his friends. But he sounds like he has some manners so hopefully not that kind of guy,

 

you seem really well adjusted to me
and you convey a very happy spirit
sooooooooooo, don't sweat it

 

My g/f is younger than me. I was more worried about the age gap than she was. I figured she wanted kids etc. Once I realized none of my concerns were valid, it is about do you get along and like the person. Can he offer you what you seek in a person that you want to devote a lot of time to? Does he have a future that fits into a view you can share? Does he treat you as you require to be treated? These all take times to answer, but need to be in your head from the start.

My g/f and I never think about our age difference. Or if we do it doesn't come up for discussion. e like what we offer each other. The rest works itself out.

Take your time. It will take weeks if not months to draw all of this out. No need to rush. If he thinks you're worth it, he won't push it.

 

that is pretty sound advice I do believe
don't get bummed out just look up at the
sky and feel the sunshine.....then smile

 

Meh. If you're into him, I don't see what the problem is.

Seems like a bit of a dork, but polite enough. Dinner in a public place sounds fine

 

Why do you say dork? Seems really sweet to me,maybe a rare gentleman. Sends flowers..maybe pulls out chair and holds door.

 

Sending anonymous flowers after first meeting her sounds kind of sweet, but also dorky if not slightly creepy.

Idk, the description kind of gives a dork vibe. That doesn't mean she won't like him though.

 

I've seen this movie.

She's young and passionate about her horses.
Home from college.
He is a hottie from a naerby farm.
He went to law school, but became disillusioned with the city life.
Now he helps his elderly dad on their family farm.
He loves horses too.
They meet while riding their horses. Her horse is white, his horse is brown.
He sends her flowers.
But he has no idea his and her dad have issues from the past.
Her overprotective and annoying, yet hawt brothers and grumpy dad don't approve of their relationship.
Her family farm is going through some financial difficulties. Evil people want to take her farm.
But there is a horse riding competition. And the prize is some really good money.
She signs up.
They guy also signs up.
The day before the competition her horse drops dead or something.
What is she going to do...she has other horses, but not competition horses.
No, not like the horse that dropped dead.
The guy shows up.
Her brothers almost beat him up.
He offers his horse.
Everyone is shocked.
She wins the competition and gets money.
Farm is saved. Brothers now approve. Familes make up. Dads make dad jokes.
Guy uses law school powers to chase away the evil people, legally.
Realizes he could do this pro bono because he is so nice, and opens an office in their small town.
Suddenly he is an expert lawyer.
Girl graduates from college.
They get married and everyone's happy.
They have little horses.

We've all seen that movie, basically.

This could be you, OP.
Go for it.

 

Who's judging? It's just an impression. I by no means condemned him

 

There's an ignore feature here I think

As far as people not believing you...this site gets trolled relentlessly. Not a surprise if someone is skeptical.

 

You should have held your cards.

If she had said something about him going to law school, or the dads having issues from the past, that would have clinched it.

 

OP, stop taking everything so seriously

 

I don't fault anyone for taking things too seriously, as i do the same thing....myself...and will never change, as there are many kinds of people in the world. I have always been serious, but can be light and silly, too, when I am in the mood.

The thing I was skeptical about, OP, is that I went to respond to something you said on the What are you doing now thread later that evening...and your posts were gone, vanished....i was shocked and took it personally and even said something about it how can I make my posts disappear...?...as I did not even know I could at the time....I said that where there is a period there now....not that i really want to make anything I say disappear......

I was nothing but nice to you, though, so i wondered what I had done to you at the time and was a little hurt....I guess......and I was very welcomming...even gave you some advice yesterday about finding out who sent the flowers to you yesterday....

and back to the question...He is not that much older than you. Is your mom ok with you going out with him for dinner, too?...as she was the one you said was leary about flowers being sent anonymously.....

I never go by age of people...I like who I like no matter how old or young.

If nothing else...maybe you will have found a new friend with this older person or maybe the love of your life...lol...being silly now..

 

The lady doth protest too much...

 

Sorry? I made like one joke.

Take your own advice.

 

WOW! What I wrote here just now did not warrant that....ok....I cannot change anything, so off I go now.

 

I came here with a request and was given some pretty snarky responses too. It's not your character you need to question. They won't see any problem with theirs so just let them be. Engaging them just fuels their need for attention.

 

NMRN...see what you just did? US against them.....and then it is someone else's fault.....mmmmhmmmmm.....