Hey guys, well I obviously have a little problem so here it is…My boyfriend and I just started having sex, I’m 16, and he’s 15…. I really enjoy having sex but my problem is that for the life of me I cant orgasm…I can orgasm fine when I’m alone, but with a person I just cant do it…. I can’t tell him, I feel bad about it and I usually lie and tell him I came. So I’ve tried everything I can think of oral, fingering, positions, and pot (which I must say makes things better but still….) Its not like its so important to me, I mean it’d be nice…but he makes me feel like its so important to him, and all I want to do is make him happy. Any ideas? Any help you can offer would be great! Thanks
yeah, i have no problem orgasming on my own, but with any guy(not just my bf now) its just been something i cant do.
maybe you're too worried about achieving an orgams that you block your mind with insecurities and arent able to get turned on. I think the best you can do is forget about reaching an orgasm as the main goal, why dont you concentrate in receiving and enjoying your boy's touch on your skin whilst you guide him to your erogenous zones, let him know where it feels good and what doesnt. Stop faking it, cos you're not making things any easier for him. he'll continue doing his thing while you are left staring at the ceiling...do something different next time, set an appropriate mood for it, somewhere you both feel at ease and relaxed and start with slow foreplay with lots of kisses all over and mutual caressing.... dont stress too much about it. remember that it is quite hard to achieve orgasm through penetration only. though its not impossible. it works great if your boy can apply extra pressure and friction on your clit while he's inside you (You on top but laying on him, not sitting on him and placing your legs outside his, works great for clitoral stimulation) hwish you luck...and remember orgasm is not the most important thing in a sexual relationship.
