Threesome came up again in conversation

I'll spare the long history, but in short, wife and I have had mmfs 4 times with 3 diff guys in all...1 was my friend, 1 was a former boyfriend of hers, 1 was a guy we met and got to know a while. Varying results. My friend creeped her out. She was upset after the former bf....she very nearly left me for the 3rd guy. Still, the idea nags at me a lot.
The other day three ways came up in conversation, not about us, and I said I'd do it again if I had some assurance you wouldn't leave me over it. She responded that 3 ways were dangerous because she has to have feelings for it to happen.

Not sure what to make of that....personally I would be fine with a wham bam thank you ma'am. If I went into something knowing it was just for fun and as an addition to the wife and i's sex life, then I could enjoy it with someone I barely know, and then never have to see them again.

Also she's said good sex makes her feel like she has feelings....and also after my friend creeped her out she said it had to be with someone she knew and felt comfortable with. That alone narrows the field to ex boyfriends. No mysterious stranger scenario there.
There are some women out there that can play around without it fucking with their heads right?
With the mmfs neither of us really relaxed enough to make the most of it, I think that's why I feel like I missed out.

 

go with anther married guy better chance he won t leave his wife or want her to know about it.. if guy like me...wham bame thank you mame....

 

I feel you! My wife keeps refusing to play with strangers. We had several threesomes and all of them were with friends of us.
She needs to have a connection with him for it to happen (and a certain amount of alcohol ).
This really narrows it down as she also needs to feel attracted to him, he should be interested in her AND not be bothered by me being there.
Basically we ran out of suitable friends at the moment so no threesomes for a while :|

 

Heh heh, well, now that you mention it the dude she almost left me for has since married.( That was the most recent experience about 5 years ago)....
If we let him in again, Im worried he or she would get some ideas about the two of them together alone afterwards, unbeknownst to me.....and while that idea is "sort" of hot for imagining, I dont want to go there. I dont consider myself a cuck...its just that I find my wife incredibly sexy....its hot for me to imagine how the other guy is feeling, and I also love to see her turned on and yeah its a bit of a pit in my stomach feeling, like the train wreck you cant turn away from but somehow its good.

 

Yes alcohol helps! When she gets that perfect shade of drunk, she's wild as hell, its just real close to the getting sick point as well so its a fine line! Plus we dont get out much anymore. We used to frequent a small bar for about 2 years, and thats where we met the last guy, but it changed ownership and we just sort of stopped going out.

Thanks for the replies, it really helps me to not think Im nuts.