Who are you more forgiving to?

I often find I am much more forgiving towards other people than I am to myself. I also give other people much more credit for their achievements than I do to that of myself.

Anyone else do this.

And why?

 

I used to.
My self confidence has risen in the last couple of years.

I wonder if English are more likely to do this than Americans?
We kind of have this thing about not showing off.. That it's arrogant or something.

As for self-forgiveness.. I think I'm getting better at that now that I see a separation between my Self/soul/spirit/whatever and ego. The "me" that the world made is like a child.. It won't improve if I keep shouting at it, I have to love it and guide it.

 

I do the same.
For me, I think people just do the best they can in any situation, based on what life has taught them. I don't feel they need forgiveness, as in saying, "I'm overlooking your fuckup", but more in the way of, "let's just go on with life and not have hard feelings" .

I think the ability to not forgive one's self is etched into our brains, no matter how your logic on forgiveness runs.

 

The things that you say to/about yourself --would you say it about a friend?

There is your answer.

 

i don't know, i think i'm pretty equally forgiving to myself and to others.

i give myself more credit for achievements than anyone else though.

 

Me? I don't know what is up with me. Some kind of messiah complex. I think I've got to know everything, do everything and save the world. Solve all the problems physically and mentally. Then apply them. It's exhausting.

Other people? I'm impressed if they can hold down a job flipping burgers.

So I'm going to leave some of this behind next year and start voluntary work in a charity shop. Then get a job probably stacking shelves in a supermarket.

I want a fucking job!

 

I have never felt like I am making such an impact as working my part time job in a gift shop. This is because, as shop person, everyone has to speak to me. So when the minority of people who can touch my life and mine theirs come in, we often end up doing so. It is surprisingly rewarding, and unexpected.

There are many ways to change the world, sometimes all you have to do is pass on one idea to one other person.

 

I've been like Arya Stark when it comes to holding grudges, and I still kind of am. But I'm trying to learn just how to forgive. To me it feels like letting someone win or get away with wronging me if there isn't some kind of retribution or reparation. I'm trying to learn how to let that go but it's difficult.

 

I'm not sure how to answer the question but I always seem to let others stomp all over my heart and I'll like, dangle it right in front of them again ready for another stomping.

Feels like my heart is a blow up mattress. Like people will stomp and push trying to get the air out, but there's always that one pocket of air that eludes the escape valve. And my heart also has that pocket of air that for some, no matter what they do to me emotionally, that little pocket of air in my heart just keep beating it back to life in hopes that one day or something, things might be a little different.

 

Me too. Time and time again.

 

If I can get my personal new years resolutions to come to fruition I won't have to worry as much.

 

Many factors can play into it.

I'm more likely to forgive a person who insults me out of anger than the passive aggressive coward who gives me the silent treatment.

 

I forgive everyone Eventually !

 

I think that's kinda beautiful.

 

Wise people in my life got me to look at things in a different way. The people who harm you are never one-up on you. Still, I 've wanted to punch so many faces, and tell so many people off.

Sometimes maybe a punch serves a good lesson, but still I think it's good for anyone to let go of the emotions inside (punch or no punch).

 

No need to forgive myself, I am awesome

 

Cough......Cough......Cough.....Splutter.....



Cheers Glen.

 

Awesome really is a stupid meaningless word

 

I cant really hold a grudge against other people, sometimes I wish I could. But I believe humans should be given room to be human and make mistakes without judgement.

And I try to extend that same courtesy to myself but it doesnt always work

 

whoever stops their offending behavior and doesn't start it up again, ever.
anyone who does that, i will completely and permanently forgive.

i only refuse to forgive those who refuse to stop, as there's no logical point to be accomplished or gained by doing so.