I want to take the plunge, I just don't know how

I'm just a bi curious guy that's always thought about being with another man, I love talking about my fantasizes and sharing with other like minded guys but now I really want to actually experience it. It's hard because I would rather stay discreet and I don't want to risk going to a club and meeting a random person that could have a disease, I know there's a lot of sites being shut down but I guess I'm desperate to find out are there other bi guys out there like me? Is there another site I can meet and talk to other guys in a similar boat? I'd love any kind of feedback, thank you

 

Where are you 'sharing with other like minded guys?' They are probably your best bet for gaining experience. There are any number of sites for bi/gay hookup. Google 'places men meet to have sex' to start. Squirt.org has been around a long time and can be tied to your location.

 

Thanks man I'll check that one out. Well that's a problem too there used to be a couple sites where I talked to guys in similar situations but they got shut down, that's how I got here. I know there's a lot out there but I want to find a site where Its safe and not full of weird people

 

I've had good luck with Adam4Adam.
Be honest in your profile, say you are new at this, little nervous, looking for someone who is patient and okay with helping a newbie.
Check out the profiles of guys who respond. Just be selective and careful. You don't have to reply to everyone.
There are a few weirdos on these types of sites, but I found it's mostly normal guys like myself.
If someone seems like a good possibility and you are interested, exchange some messages, then maybe a phone call before meeting.
Meet in public first if you feel more comfortable doing that.
Worked for me and far better than hooking up with someone random you just met in bar.

 

Thank you ill check it out. You pretty much described exactly what I'm looking for,my biggest fear is getting weirdos or a guy that gets around I know that's going to be everywhere I just want to reduce that. I really want to find someone similar to me or even just a gay man that I can talk to and we can take things at a slower pace, because yes I am incredibly nervous. How did your first experience go?

 

I chickened out the first time and canceled at the last minute.
The guy was totally understanding, which was a good sign.
About 2 weeks later I met the guy at his place, we talked for 10 minutes or so and then got naked once I said I was ready.
I was pretty nervous, but once I started sucking him, it was totally fine and fun.
I still don't like meeting new people and get a little nervous the first time, but not as bad.
I just don't do it all that often. Would like to find a regular hookup buddy, but that's easier said then done.

 

Honestay it's going to take a little for me to get over the nervous even though I've always thought about it, I just want to meet a guy in the same boat as me or like you just have a really nice and understanding guy. I would feel a lot more comfortable meeting a guy and can really talk to and gets the situation, I know it'll take time and it's out there I'm just super nervous I guess

 

I’d love to chat and talk about experiences and first times. Message me if you’d like a new friend

 

I met a guy on the Siverdaddies site. Started chatting with him and then met him for coffee a few times. He isn’t the only guy I chatted with there but was one I felt a connection with. Over the last couple of years we have met for sex six or seven times. It’s over time that we have gained the comfort and trust that makes meeting better.
If I were to give any advice, while trying to find someone take your time and enjoy the process. Not everyone will be a match. They don't have to be. You will need to weed out a few nuts. If I haven’t looked for him I wouldn’t have found him and be looking forward to meeting him tomorrow.

 

If you ONLY need some sites to find other bi people to chat with. There are so many choice for you: Bipeoplemeet(casual vs serious), okcupid(serious relationship), bisexualplayground, etc. Hope this could help you.

 

This last year i made a friend at work, we no longer work together, but we still gang out. Found myself being really attracted to him. I didn't know if he felt the same or not.

Once when he was visiting he seen my YouTube search history. I erased it seconds after i seen it on tge tv screen. He still came by to visit a few days latter.

Ive never made a pass at him, don't want to loose the friendship.
Also don't want to loose my marriage.

Why do we make our lives so complicated?

 

It can be complicated for sure. Several years ago a close friend of mine was over enjoying some beers around our fire ring with me as we've done many, many times. His conversation led to his frustration with his wife as she wasn't sucking his cock as often as she'd done in the past. Being that I had a few beers in me and we've been friends for 10+ years I blurted out "I'll suck it for you". He didn't take the offer as positive as I'd liked. We're still friends, but he doesn't stop over as much anymore, keeping his distance. I regret having said what I said, but it happened.

 

Also have a friend I'd like to pleasure, but can't loose his friendship. Will hope for someone else, the urge to please a man is so strong.

 

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