Trying to understand men.

There is this guy that I am friends with, and I would love to take it further than that, but he does this really weird thing where he makes plans with me to do things,o the movies, come over for dinner etc, but then pulls out right at the last minute.

Why does he do that? I thought maybe it was because he didn't want to be alone with me, but then I realised that he really only does it when its a group thing.

If he didn't want to hang out with me, why does he make plans at all?

 

he may not be comfortable in a group and is afraid he will embarrass himself in front of you or he's gay

 

sorry to have to tell you this but hes probably not interested....the truth hurts

move on. hes not worth your time!

 

keys to understanding men

1. Feed them
2. Fuck them
3. Shut the fuck up

 

^^^lol...o the truth

 

Oh wow, sad yet true. Honestly, men think just like women, only, they worry about the way they think. They try and "look cool" when they end up looking like selfish jerks. It's not intentional, sometimes they just get confused in what is more important to impress a lady; be a big tough jock, show how strong and capable you are, or, lay down and be sensitive, rub, caress. It's all confusion. Women are just as awkward in this situation as well. However, it doesn't happen to all men, just as it doesn't happen to all women. Sometimes it takes practice to get the Suave Hero act down, other times it can come naturally. Just because he has an odd side doesn't mean he doesn't like you. More than likely he is nervous or something really comes up that causes him to cancel, other wise he wouldn't be makeing numerous plans with you time after time. The fact that he wants to be in a group setting pretty much says he wants to get to know you without being stuck with you if things don't go according to plan. I suggest you talk to him, tell him whats going on in your mind and let him know that you are intersted in him and would like to become more involved if he is up to it. Maybe once you break the ice he'll come back down to earth and be a little more secure around you.

PS
i never claim to be an expert on men, this just seems to be how a majority of men clain to think.

 

I'd rather be virtually alone for the rest of my days than follow those guidelines.

 

Cause he can't afford condoms?

 

No, I think she was implying that he only ditches when it's a group thing. If that's the case, then he might be socially introverted, or simply shy, or a number of reasons, but he could be interested. I dunno.

 

Strangely enough almost straight after I posted that message he called me and asked if he could come over for a drink.

So he came over, we had a great night, just the two of us, talking and stuff. Anyway its the next morning and he is still here (no I didn't get lucky he slept in the spare room).

Through the course of our conversation the fact that he always cancels things came up and he told me that he realised that he did it alot, but that I shouldn't think he doesn't want to do stuff with me, and that he really appreciates the fact that I am willing to hang out with him (he isn't from Australia and so doesn't know that many people here).

From the conversation we had last night I am pretty sure the problem is one of the girls in our group.

As for ever getting any further with him, I don't think that is an option. Last night he showed me a whole heap of photos of his ex and basically said that she is the one and he finds it hard to be with other women when he knows that she is coming back. She is travelling for 12 months thats why they broke up.

Anyway, thats the story!

 

aawwww.....sorry to hear that babe................also i am available

 

ha ha ha ha ha dont worry hes in a transitional period

 

hmm i wouldn't waste your time trying to understand him, he really doesn't sound like a winner or that he deserves you.

 

Talk about doing a 360 on me!!

We have gone from plans cancelled left right and center, to spending almost the whole last three days with me!

and most of that time it jsut being the two of us!!

But like I said before its pretty clear he jsut wants to be friends! Story of my life!

 

this guy sounds like a douche anyway.

 

Yeah, that pretty much makes me wanna be a lesbian. Fuck men. OH! I mean don't fuck them.

 

I realise that no one is interested in my running commentry, but I just neeed to get it out!

So last night we went out, he came early and we had drinks and a chat etc, then others turned up and we went into town. Got to the club and he was buying me drinks, talking, touching etc....but then he asks me if I think a friend of ours sister is interested in him.

I know he sounds like a real arseholehe is actually a really nice guy, he has no idea that I like him so its not like he is tryino make me feel like shit buy asking me that stuff.

I am just frustrated I guess.

 

he sounds like a moron......use him....jump his bones...then dump him....lol

 

yep, i've been told plenty of times the way to keep a man happy is to give head and cook for them...in that order.

It's ok, i'm gay this week too.

 

That made me laugh.

That too.