Father issues

I had a wonderful role model--an abusive drunk who told me never to be like him. For much of my life, any time a problem came up, I'd catch myself asking what would Dad do--and do the opposite. It's worked pretty well. Good ol' Dad, great negative role model and wonderful advice!

 

Hi,

I'm new hear, I'm a dad of 4 and 1 on the way. In 2004 after a breif 6 month relationship where the woman cheated with her ex, my first son was born, only found out through DNA before his 5th birthday he was mine.

8 years later in a different relationship for 5 years my little boy now 6 came into the world. A year later after his birth I was punched up by his mom severely in the face, called the police and walked out of the relationship there and then October Friday night 2013. I tried to go with my son but the female officers had me down as the victim dispite my busted lips and swollen face.

Since then I have been in and out of court trying to get contact. Social services has been involved for 5 years due to continuous allegation that I assault my son, non that has ever been proven. This is done to breach the court order. Now social services have come back again, despite the continuous history of false allegation. School nor the doctor surgery has no concerns.

I haven't seen my son for almost 2 month now.

There seem to be a conspiracy going on, she lies blatantly outright before the courts, to the social services and they know, but ignores it.

She's on a mission to see my son fatherless because her two boys are fatherless, one hates his dad. In her words, "her other two sons didn't have their dad around so this one don't need me". She coaches my son to lie that I hurt him and he doesn't want to see me again.

The Social Services all say that it's obvious that he is exposed to adult conversation but refuses to admit that she is coaching him.

It really painful, I love my boy. When I was going to walk away few weeks after he was born and take her to court, the first lawyer told me to stick around for 3 years and bond with him but I caved in after 11 month. She would send me to my grave or prison if I spent one more day being with her.

My son is a daddy's boy as he didn't bond with his mother when he was a baby, as a matter of fact I have a recording of her saying he shouldn't have been born. She strives off bitterness.

I'm married, and have 2 lovely daughters and a son in the way, but it aches that I my son has again been alienated from me.

 

Post has been reported to the FBI.

 

I was raised by a single mom and had little to no curiously who he was. I was told just a few times but was happy without.

 

Father issues Stress and we need this and that. Yet at the end of each day it worth it

 

My dad was awesome in every way. I didn't enjoy every minute with him but I treasure all of them. F***ing guy was brilliant, extremely capable, successful and totally down to earth and reasonable. My friends were jealous (seriously) of my awesome dad. We did everything together from digging clams to fishing/hunting in Alaska, Montana, Wyoming, etc. He was a kid that grew up in a small town. Worked his way through school and wound up a Harvard Medical School educated surgeon. He never let it go to his head that he was as elite as he was. He was an authority on all things natural (flora, fauna, etc.) and loved the great outdoors. He made sure we knew that he loved us unconditionally (truly unconditionally). His greatest gift to me was being an awesome role model. I channel his example into all of my parenting.

 

Wow---started in 2004 by MattinVegas. He was a good man---died in 2008, I believe. It's amazing coming across old posts here in the forums. So, so many good posters have come and gone. Have they died? Have they just lost interest? I guess we'll never know.

I've been here since 99 or 2000---I guess one day , I'll just disappear.