I can’t orgasm

I need help I’m 19. I’ve had sex many times but I haven’t been able to orgasm during sex or even make myself orgasm. What can I do to help myself?

 

What methods you have tried so far which does not give you an orgasm?

 

I’ve tried a lot of things. Different positions. Vibrators. Fingering. Bondage. Pretty much anything that gives me pleasure but I just can’t seem to orgasm.

 

You must not give up hope. You will definitely enjoy the pleasures of orgasm sooner. As a man, I can't advise for every thing about female orgasm. But marrried for more than 20 years I know it takes time and effort to achieve female orgasm.
The first step is to explore your own body and find out what brings thebest sexual pleasure.
Have you ever reached orgasm at all? Do you have any concept of what orgasm feelings are like?

 

I have the basic concept and I’ve almost orgasmed a couple of times but have never actually been able to.

 

When that situation occured? Is it with a partner? Or by yourself?
Surely there is definite hope.

 

It has occurred both by myself and with a partner.

 

That is definitely a positive sign. We can work on this. It may that you have some inhibitions to fully express and enjoy your sexual goals. When I was married to my wife (she was 23 then) had the same problem. But we worked on it methodically with patience. Nowdays she orgasms almost every time.

So be positive and it is important to do things in a right way. How often you attempt to pleasure yourself and what is best method for you even though you don't reach the point of orgasm? It is important to find ways to orgasm on your own before a partner is involved.

 

I don’t try very often since I’m in a dorm room and I have the best luck using a vibrator and stimulating the clit.

 

This explains part of the story. In a dorm situation you are worried about full privacy. You must be aiming for quick sexual gratification which you are not getting due to unconscious inhibitions. Unfortunately in the case of females it is difficult to reach real climax with restrictions. My wife won't even agree to have sex when some visitors are in separate bedrooms in the house because she feels she cant let her go fully.
Vibrators are good aids for reaching climax but it will work well when the female is fully primed sexually. One can't reach orgasm or climax straight away with the vibrator alone.
Have you ever watched female friendly sex videos which will put you in the right mood before attempting to stimulate your self? We find watching a video is a very good way to get my wife in the mood. Also what you really think about what you should feel during orgasm? Any kind of physical feelings you associate with orgasm?

 

I feel like I focus myself on trying to orgasm instead of letting myself feel the pleasure. And I do watch videos to try and help but they don’t always work.

 

Nothing wrong in experiencing orgasm. We always.

 

to achieve orgasm you need a healthy guy and lost of foreplay. dildos I don't thing work because orgasm is based on the excitement of getting pregnant not pleasure. Pleasure is a side affect. if the guy is patient, caring, gentle and cares enough about you more than his own needs you can achieve it eventually it depends on how you feel about yourself and if you have bee sexually interefed with or not or something that may have interfered with your sexuality in some way. Any kind of bad trauma like rape, incest, or being molested may affect you in a negative way. As long as the guy is prepared to caress you for hours and I mean hours then eventually you will achieve orgasm. I've know young women to achieve in a few hours but not a real humdinger orgasm. Orgasms come in different strengths some are light orgasms some are incredible strong and intense. hand caressing for hours is the only way I know of achieving it. you gotta be gentle and slow, and patient. A guy must caress for hours maybe up to three or 4 hours. yeah is shocking to hear that but that's the only way I know how to achieve it. its not easy at all it takes a long time. he needs to caress you all over legs, arms, body, back buttocks, your hair, slowly, gently, patiently. Never grind away at the clitoris its wont work because most guys spend way too much time grinding that part which just ends up causing pain. gspot is nonsense and it doesn't work all it does is cause pain. if you really want to know search for my oldest post on achieving it. I try my best to help people yet no one seems that interested in knowing the truth.

 

Thank you so much! I’ll be sure to try that with my man!

 

Well if it's any consolation I haven't been able to cum tonight either, but I'm not done trying.

 

My wife's mental hang ups interfered with her orgasms. Once she got out of the "good girl /bad girl" mentality she had more frequent and stronger orgasms.