Nice guys.

In high school a girl called the cops on me when I gave her a poem. I was very shy and instead of just making conversation after class I thought a poem would work better. She will just see how nice I am and then we she talks to me first we can go to prom. It's simple teenage logic. I looked up her class schedule on the principal's computer and gave her a poem saying it was from the office and just walked out. The cops called my phone instead and told me it was not a good way to meet girls.

Creepy and bad might have different meanings to a women. Candy is right, don't be shy just go for it. No poetry or anything like that at first. At least you will know for sure. You might be missing dating opportunities just because she was also afraid to talk to you. I don't know women like to be equal but many still like the guy to chase at first. It shows you are serious and they are worth it. This is what I overhear among women what do I know?

 

Interesting.
Actually, Women do the choosing. But Guys must show initiative.
It is a complicated world.
It always has been.
Although the Neanderthals didn't care. lol

 

you can just read tinder conversations? i assumed those were private.

 

Trying to be nice by agreeing with other people and acting like a doormat is extremely boring.
However, people who I chat to here, will know that I express my points of view without insulting and putting down others. It is really quite simple.

 

Unspirational (@tindernightmares) • Instagram photos and videos

 

Many tinder users take screenshots of their tinder experiences. This can range from creepy or very quaint convos to weird or otherwise noteworthy profile pics.
I'm in a whatsapp group where a woman was sharing both these things. Like, one match looked like another person in that group, another had a supposedly comical large forehead and yes, one also was overly direct in his cravings to the point it was def creepy.
Made me wonder if i would join and get matches my pics would be shared like that as well
Anyway, this woman is overly insecure. She also chronically has profile pics that don't match reality... I think most of this sharing is done for verification and make her feel better about herself (kind of at the expense of others). But sharing the creepy talk has merit of course. Good warnings

 

i know i'm so boring my cat joined the circus. but there's another side to this, and that's "what kind of a world, do you want to live in?".
because all of us do, make what our culture is like, to live in and experience, by how we live and the example everything we do, sets for each other.
even when we don't think anyone else is looking.

so then there's the question of what is being meant by nice.
its a word that doesn't get used very often, because its almost always abused when it is.

i have a very specific idea, that "nice" is the opposite of "not nice"
and not nice, is when people are so illogical, that they think they're doing the world a favor, by being inconsiderate,
or think it doesn't matter, to even think about what considerate is and is not.

 

Interesting that you see yourself this way, because I would not lump you into the "one dimensional nice" category.

 

Well, maybe it's different in person. Though I think my anti-depressants are really helping a lot.

 

Winners don’t wait

Procrastinators are forever masturbators

 

Dude, dude, dude

Its money

Come on look around, every where around you

You are 38, how much longer till you work it out

Everything from a nice dinner to a nice house, provide for the kids, shit all costs money

Its money

Money Money Money

 

Money makes the world go around

 

Unfortunately

 

There is no such thing as bad poetry

 

I just don't think you have found the right person yet but she will be out there somewhere . Some women like "bad boys" some others don't . You just can't generalise on this type of thing as everyone is different , with different tastes and ideals. My partner for example was looking for an old fashioned gentleman with good manners . She found one in me but it took her some time.

 

yeah, the love of your life is "out there somewhere" but there is no guarantee we ever find them because i know several old single people who wouldn't choose to be.

 

The love of my life is coffee

And bacon sandwiches with swiss cheese and pickles, toasted in a frypan on both sides

 

hell of a lot easier to find when you stop looking for the love of your life amongst the human population, definitely.