Should I stay and fight or leave ? Why?

Why so coarse?

 

Nude Mud Wrestling is the sport of Kings, and anyone who tells you otherwise is a Queen.

 

Some people are naturally wired to " go off " with little or no provocation.

My best guess, since I know neither of you, is hit the exit , compatibility clash dead ahead !

 

Only ye decide if it's too rough a rub for ye

 

Ye ruff

 

Op .. dude get the f*** out .... Life is too short to waste on people that don't respect you.... Just because others break up and miss their exes dearly that is usually not the case generally we meet others and go on with our lives much happier and don't have to resort to missing our exes....lol
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If it's serious enough, then it's worth seeing a couples counselor about this.
I don't know if there are any good books out there about how to make relationships work (if you want to take a less expensive approach), but it might be worth looking into.

Acupuncture and traditional Chinese medicine can help treat the tendency to go to certain emotional extremes. I can say more about the subject if you are interested.

There might be something like anger management training or meditation that could keep your gf from going off

 

Thank you very much for your reply!! We had a pretty mature conversation for the first time that it went well. She's considering going to therapy. We made it clear what we both expect from this relationship. But I am very curious about all methods you mentioned. I would be pretty happy to learn more about acupuncture , traditional Chinese medicine and anger management training .

 

Thanks for the input man. The thing is, it's pretty easy to just leave and look for the next option. I believe this is the reason why there are so many promiscuous people /divorced people. They don't stay and fight through the problems and make things work like a team. It's like always thinking the grass is greener on the other side but eventually you'll hit other problems with less quickly irritated people ( like lack of chemistry or passion, different political views etc...)
I believe that if there's the willing to grow together and stay forever together, then any kind of challenge including a poor anger management can be overcame with patience and work.
Cheers

 

Anger Management - I don't know much about this, but I know it's out there. Not sure if you can just get a book about it, or if it's more helpful to see a therapist

Acupuncture and traditional Chinese herbal medicine can treat a wide variety of conditions. It can be expensive though, so if cost is an issue, you might want to look into community-style acupuncture or a teaching clinic - they only charge about $20 per treatment.

To find a teaching clinic, try searching for acupuncture schools in your area. There's usually a link to a teaching clinic from a school's homepage.

For community-style clinics, you can similarly do a search for clinics in your area.

If you're in the US, POCA has a list of POCA-affiliated community-style acupuncture clinics
www.POCAcoop.com

 

Thanks everyone for your input! I chose to give this relationship a chance. The energy and vision are already pretty different for both of us. I am going to work on myself to be the kind of person that inspires the way I want to be treated. If things didn't work out , well I would have learned a bunch of skills and became more mature and I would know more what I want or don't want in my future relationships after all. So it's a win win

 

Here's the way I see it
Everyone is flawed. I think we should be forgiving of flaws, but only if it doesnt cross the line where it becomes abuse.
Having difficulty controlling her anger is one thing but if she does it in a way that makes you feel disparaged and worthless, then I would say it is crossing the line into abuse

 

Also be careful with this, this is a trap I have been in before. The better I became, the worse he treated me. Because at the heart of every angry person is a deeply insecure and fearful person, and being around someone who is improving themselves can make an insecure person feel even more insecure.
(Not saying you shouldn't improve yourself, just saying that your improvements probably wont change their behavior)