Arranged Marriages?

Would you prefer marriages to be arranged by the parents? Why/ Why not?

 

no fucking way...I wouldn't trust my parents with those sorts of things.

 

Well in my life I've had a best friend whose always been their for me and during her sisters wedding all her family and mine would always said we would ge married.She turned out to be beutiful shes a model and smart and has everything going for her.I want to be with when I grow up too but you have to understand.Sometimes people are too good for other people.If that was an arrange marriage I would feel bad and always have something on my shoulder.So I guess you could say I am against them.

 

Sometimes, marriages based on mutual and rational co-operation is better than those based on momentary attraction. They last longer too.

One more though: How about governments arranging marriages for their citizens?

 

As far as government doing it, it depends, it could be good... They could find couples that according to all that is known, should be a perfect match... But would being a perfect match for each other in every possible way lead to love? It is rather irrational...

 

Love is irrelevant. The only thing that matters is co-operation and reciprocity.

 

it could work, and it does work. if you think about it really its kinda romantic, you get to know one another after the marrige get that"new " relationship feeling.

i wouldnt really like it for myself though.

 

Shit happens. I prefer shit to take it's course.

 

Fuck no... marriage is one of the very few times in your life you actually get to choose who you want to live with.... you don't choose your parents.

Who cares if it could work? Having the government reinstate a draft, or having your parents make you sign up for the military, could work for something.

 

hahahaha yah sure i would LOVE that.

k, if you didnt notice i was being sarcastic there. If I were a parent that was able to choose who my children were to marry, I wouldnt do it. Who am I to choose who loves eachother and who is to spend the rest of their life together? I would feel pretty bad if my children ended up with some physco freak who like to beat them up. I would blame myself. So yah, wouldnt want my parents to interfere with that part of my life (well any part of my life really).

 

My parents aren't even compatible with each other, so I wouldn't even trust them to find a compatible mate for myself.

 

No freaking way!

Almost everything my parents chose for me (name, religion, clothes etc) has been a dissapointment and/or just doesn't sit right. So I'm sure as hell not going to trust them with something that.

My parents would no doubt choose horrific* suitors. Then it would be painful for all concerned.
They wouldn't do it out of spite, but just not knowing anything about that aspect of my life. Frankly they shouldn't know, that's part of my adult life so I'll handle it like a grown up and not get their input/approval.

That and I would much rather be single forever than have them find me a husband. My single staus is a concious choice, not a bloody charity case. But really just don't want to give them the satisfaction of arranging my life. (Seriously I'm so petty and stubborn about it.)

Sure you need coperation, respect and stuff. But God damn it I want shameless lust too, at least to get us off the ground. Can't see how that figures into an arranged marriage.

*I don't mean bad people, but rather 'how could you imagine they would appeal?' like a computer geek or something.

 

Well... at least they procreated you!

 

No...
You can't force love.

 

Arranged marraiges are like a case of herpes in the ass.

 

thats always nice

 

nah, unprotected sex is scarier than a monkey's ass.

 

yes. yes it is.


hmm.

that reminds me of something.

 

thats what i said, im glad you concur