Give an "ex" another chance??? Yay or nay?

What's the rule for getting back with exes that say they are going to change and have already made sacrifices to prove themselves??? What's the success rate in this situation? Super curious!

(sidenote: in my personal situation the relationship was 6 months and we've only been "ex" for 2 months...hmmm)

Thanks!
Ashleigh

 

NAY!!!!

They are exs for a reason... if they broke your trust once they will most likely do it again. I've tried so many times to make things work with exs in the past... it always ended the same way and we always broke up for the same reasons again the second time around.

 

NAY

for girls: once a ho always a ho
for guys: once a player always a player
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fuck no, there are other fish in the sea. i was heartbroken when my girlfriend of 9 months cheated on me and i had to break up with her. BAM 2 weeks later ive got another girl who im sprung on.

 

Nay

I've gone back to well with a couple girls after the initial break up and its never been the same. Once an ex, always an ex in my opinion. I won't go through it again. In one situation I hurt the girl, in the other situation the girl hurt me and I don't want to be faced with either of those situations again.

 

nope you shouldn't. I have before but for selfish reasons and it really wasn't fair to waste anymore time of that persons life and I still feel shitty about it. Being friends with them isn't a good idea either because it's not such a good friendship when ya'll start dating other people again lol.

 

^i hear that shit. my and my recent ex of 9 months tried to be friends but we had both cheated and then started dating the people we had cheated with. well she'd make comments to me about how much bigger i was and he he doesnt aim to please her in the sack like i did and so id start making jokes and she started trash talking my girlfriend. The words "spoiled little bitch" and "asshole" were the most audible in our conversations....now we dont talk at all.

 

once the respect for a person is gone it stays gone...

 

I am single and you want to give your ex another chance? I mean come on... think about it!!!!
I swear some people just dont seem to realize what is going on.... and neither do I.
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I have the capacity to make myself laugh... only sucks that I am the only one laughing.
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no way. I'm not wasting anymore time on someone that made me unhappy to begin with.

 

YAY.

in my case, the relationship was "over" for 2 months and we didnt see/talk to each other, but everything was unresolved we both still loved each other. he really messed up with me (nothing like cheating...i would never stand for that), but i was willing to give him another chance for many reasons. People sometimes freak out or do stupid things when faced with an intense emotional relationship, and i would never have gone back if i didnt know for sure that things were different (in fact, they got infinitely better), and i am not so blind that i can't detect sincerity. Its been a year and a half now that we've been together and we make each other very happy, even long-distance.

However this is, i realize, an isolated case.

 

Hell no... There was a reason you broke up in the first place

 

OK let me clarify the situation a bit and then maybe i will get some more "YAYS". The dude did not cheat on me, in fact he lost his virginity to me. He was a workaholic and I never saw him much after the first 4 months of the relationship... He would come home from work to my apt. and pass out at 10pm and then had to be at work at 5am... plus He also worked on the weekends. We went on a date like once every 2 weeks.


So now that he realizes how awesome I was and how much his life sucks without me he works much less this semester and even wants to quit one of his jobs. Basically he is trying to prove himself in everyway possible that I will be put on a pedestal (sp?) if I give him another chance.

He is an AWESOME person... but it took me like 6 weeks to get over him bc i was so hurt and then BAM he wants me to dive back into it.

Oh and PS- I know he is not the person I want to spend the rest of my life with... but we could still have a great time for another year or so..

What do you guys think now?

- Ashleigh

 

I say yes... If he wants to prove how much he cares about you, let him

 

i could never get back together with any of my exes....i dont think it can work after a break up...there was a reason things didnt work out, besides, no-one can change just like that.

 

I definitely say NAY. I've been there too many times to count, and it got even worse the second time around.

 

if you know you cant spend the rest of your life with them, then youre wasting your time going back. why would you want to, just to use him and lose him?

 

You're only 18, I say give it another shot. You've got plenty of time to find your soulmate.

 

hell no!

 

If my ex asked if i wanted to go out with her again i might instinctivly punch her in the face for being such a bitch and thinking that i would ever trust her again, even though we have remained semi-friends. I have lost all my respect for her and i dont think it will ever come back.......maybe I'm just bitter.

 

I have tried this with ex-husband and an ex-boyfriend and for whatever reason it didn't work out. Now that the ex-boyfriend has major medical problems, he wants to get back together (I'll assume cuz nobody else will take care of him). I still care alot for him but not so sure I want to move again just for more heartache.