How many of you ladies on here find the idea of having a "hall pass" / green light to have fun with another guy HOT - even if you haven't done so? Would you consider it if your hubby /SO was OK with it?
Im a big advocate of open relationships. I dont think love and exclusivity are the same thing, nor one is necessary for the other to be true. But, ppl are jealous, my bf and i started seeing each other casually and kept it that way for 2 years but eventually he asked to be exclusive and at the time i wanted him more than anyone else so i agreed
I once gave my wife a hall pass, and she yelled "How can you let me have sex with other men!" We were a couple of years into the marriage, and she had been complaining for a week or two that I was the only man she had known and she was going to haver to go through her whole life only knowing one man. As far as I know, I am still her only sex partner.
You're a generous man, Guildford. Don't suppose, she gave you a pass in return and if for nothing else, just to see if you'd accept it?
Curiousfellow Prior to the incident that I described above, she was complaining that she wanted to be intimate with someone she knew at work and said that it would be OK if I had sex with someone in a city that was about 100 miles away. I frequently did business there, but I did not know anyone there. This was a "hall pass" that made it very difficult to meet the condition. Never used it.
I'm confused, with her telling you, that she wanted extra marital sex , but when given the go ahead, she replied....."How can you let me have sex with other men!".....so, am I missing something here?
My reply: Shit test, dude. That's what this is. And telling you she more or less wants one while giving you one you can't use is dirty pool. I'd tell her she must also go 100 miles away.
I do not understand what makes my wife tick. This is just scratching the surface. But as far as I know I remain her first and only.
You're not alone there, Guildford and I've come to know one, most recently, that seems to lack in logic, as well.
What makes women tick??? That's easy ………….. it's the shifting of the wind !!!! In my experience, you can do "x" for her one day and be her sweetheart / knight in shining armor. 2 weeks later, do "x" again and you're the biggest asshole !!! They ( women) are a moving target. Get her flowers for no reason once. She'll think you're a romantic sweetie-pie. Get her flowers again in 3 weeks and she might very well suspect you of doing something wrong and give you the 3rd degree & get in a really piss-y mood. You may be 100% innocent of any wrong-doing, but she'll never believe it. Offer to do the dishes and you're a hero. Do the dishes again the next day & she thinks you're accusing her of not doing them "correctly" or fast enough. "What ….. I'm not doing them right?? " - - - - - Hormones. Waves of hormones. Learn to ride the waves.
My wife has had a hall pass for a long time. Early into our marriage she asked if I'd let her fuck other men. I told her I would on one condition. It's just sex for the sake of sex. I don't consider sex just to cum as cheating.
Cindy - How do you like the hall pass so far? Have either of you used your hall pass? If so - your thoughts and reactions?
Since women are such mysteries to us guys most of the time, I would love to get responses from more ladies out there to this thread. I realize many women would wonder what in hell her hubby or SO was thinking if he gave her a hall pass. The usual stuff : he wants to bed some other woman, he doesn't love me anymore, etc. But what if he really loves you so much that he wants you to be able to have hot, romantic, mini-vacations from the marriage or relationship with a guy you choose? And hubby not wanting to date another woman at all, so you have your life-love waiting to welcome you home again? Your hubby / SO would surely enjoy and be turned-on by your romantic/sexual mini-vacations, and the ladies could have a fresh change from the daily routine. How would twice per month sound for a romantic mini-vacation from the daily grind? And it would be soooo hot to share your sexy, fun dates with your hubby or SO when you 2 re-connect !! There are many guys out there who would love to be in such a relationship for real. Your hubby / SO has proven that he loves you for some years / marriage / devotion to you, and is willing to give you the freedom to date a guy(s) you choose. He thinks it's hot if you do & he'll be even more devoted to you (he has a little competition!). You have the love, security & support of your guy at home, and a romantic new world to explore as you like. There's nothing quite like the thrill & heat of a new, hot guy to share romantic sexy times with, right? As the saying goes - you have your cake and can eat it too. There must be lots more ladies reading on this forum than post here. I, and many other guys would love to hear your opinions on this "hall pass", romantic mini-vacation idea. C'mon ladies ……….. open up and spill your innermost thoughts. It's anonymous, and I just think there are more ladies who'd love to try this knowing they don't give up their hubby or SO. In fact, they would get their support for the mini-vacations!! Ladies????
