Vaginismus help

I wouldn't expect her to be gung-ho about exercises either, then. I doubt if she'll even do them.

There is something to be said for a lack of interest in sex. It really isn't that important.

 

sex may not be important but if we get married id like to have kids

 

is it possible for her to just be really tight where she is a virgin she is a thicker women so idk if that would matter

 

Really? How mature r u

 

Extracts from a reliable UK medical source.


Symptoms
The symptoms vary between individuals.

They may include:

• painful intercourse (dyspareunia), with tightness and pain that may be burning or stinging
• penetration being difficult or impossible
• long-term sexual pain with or without a known cause
• pain during tampon insertion
• pain during a gynecological examination
• generalized muscle spasm or breathing cessation during attempted intercourse

Pain can range from mild to severe in nature and from discomfort to burning in sensation.

Vaginismus does not prevent people from becoming sexually aroused, but they may become anxious about sexual intercourse, so that they try to avoid sex or vaginal penetration.

Causes
Vaginismus is a condition which can be caused by physical stressors, emotional stressors, or both. It can become anticipatory, so that it happens because the person expects it to happen.

Emotional triggers
These include:

• fear, for example, of pain or pregnancy
• anxiety, about performance or because of guilt
• relationship problems, for example, having an abusive partner or feelings of vulnerability
• traumatic life events, including rape or a history of abuse
• childhood experiences, such as the portrayal of sex while growing up or exposure to sexual images

Physical triggers
These include:

• infection, such as a urinary tract infection (UTI) or yeast infection
• health conditions, such as cancer or lichen sclerosis
• childbirth
• menopause
• pelvic surgery
• inadequate foreplay
• insufficient vaginal lubrication
• medication side effects

Sexual problems can affect both men and women. They are not anyone's fault, and they are nothing to be ashamed of.

In most cases, treatment can help.

Treatment

To diagnose vaginismus, a doctor will take a medical history and carry out a pelvic examination. Treatment may involve different specialists, depending on the cause.

Any possible underlying causes, such as an infection, may need to be ruled out or treated first, before focusing on the vaginismus.

The aim of treatment will be to reduce the automatic tightening of the muscles and the fear of pain, and to deal with any other type of fear that may be related to the problem.

Treatment usually includes a combination of the following:

Pelvic floor control exercises: These include muscle contraction and relaxation activities, or Kegel exercises, to improve control of the pelvic floor muscles.

 

as a ripe strawberry

 

Since you are offline at the moment, I will attempt to guide you.

Assuming that you have eliminated the physical triggers.
For all women, sex for the first time will be somewhat traumatic.
Hopefully she has not suffered abuse in the past, I will go from there.

During the menstrual cycle, women are fertile for about 2 days in 28. For the rest of the time, while they may enjoy sex with a loving partner, it is far less enjoyable for them. There reward is purely in making you happy.
When you read through the emotional triggers, you should realize how to behave. Putting any feelings of inadequacy on her will make things worse, as will fiddling wit her while she is asleep.
You should not need a graph to follow her cycle, her reactions to simple actions such as everyday kissing should be a good guide.
Then take things VERY slowly with minimal talk. She needs to realize that with an emotional hangup, there is nothing wrong with her physically.
Avoid discussions. They will add to her stress.
It may take a few months, but afterwards you will wonder what all the fuss was about.
Remember,
Her moods and actions should always be your guide.
NOT the other way around.!!!!!

 

I assume you have talked to her about this. Trying to finger her while she is asleep is not what I would think is being open and honest about the issue.

Different women like different things. Only way to find out is to ask.

There are sex specialist out there other than us internet commandos. See if she will see one with you.

This doctor I did a clinical rotation with had a recent married couple who had problems with sex. The guy just could not get it in without pain. He was trying to get his dick in her urethra not her vagina. It is important to learn your anatomy and talk about it.

 

she is the one who suggested the sleeping part and im pretty sure that im not going in her urethra lol but i will suggest the sex specialist

 

Dude you got me laughing so hard it hurts.

 

i'm glad that other peoples problems are entertaining to u

 

Hi Chuck she may have an extra thick hymen, with this problem she really needs to see a doctor and get it broken, a doctor can do it, very simple for him to do.

 

I think you could experiment with some anal!

 

If she doesn’t want to see a dr perhaps she can try a small vibrator.

 

Happy Vaginismus everyone, and a clear new rear

 

Not all women are up for that, and for some it really disgusts them.

 

Could be her hormones are out of whack, a blood test would soon find that out, take her to her doctor, its just a blood test.