Ok, I'm going to be a complete amateur and ask the most annoying question I can. How the fuck do you know if someones gay? I know theres no easy straightforward answer but seriously. I am genuinly confused. I came out as bisexual a few years ago and everyone took it pretty well and so on. I've always liked one of the girls in our group of friends very much, for a very long time. We have this 'thing' where at party's when we've had a bit to much to drink, we end up getting with each other. Yeah, we've never slept together but you know. This happens all the fucking time, I've even told her that I'm bi and that I don't want her to feel uncomfortable with me afterwards because she might think I want something to become of it. Which, of course, I do, but nevermind. She confuses me so much, she flirts with me all the time, she tells me how much she wants to 'fuck me' and then stuff happens. But she's straight! How the fuck do I find a gay girl I like. Every girl I've ever been attracted to is straight....one day I'm going to find myself a lesbian. Does gaydar really exist and could someone possibly tell me the frequency
A little tip, stop kissing her when you've had a few drinks. If you keep doing that you'll never find out whats going on and it will stay confusing. Women are already confusing enough lol. At the end of the day you have a few options open to you. You can just ask her outright whats going on and how she feels, after all you've kissed a few times so what have you got to loose from being open about it now? You can back off and just move on because its going in circles. Or you can appear to have backed off sexually from her. Women automatically respond to this because they can't help it dont be cold though, be attentive to her, listen to her, joke with her, but dont come on to her or allow her to come on to you. If she tries to kiss you pull away politely. She will be wondering why you wont kiss her so thats your chance to set the bait. Tell her that you find it hard to leave it at kissing when you find her so attractive (or insert other genuine compliments here as aproprite) if she responds to this still dont let her kiss you (if your both drunk) and tell her when your with a beautiful woman you would like to remember everything about it and that you want to give her the best night of her life when your both sober enough to properly enjoy it but this is all down to you being strong enough to not kiss her! Dont worry about telling her your bi i'd have thought that would be clear by now lol. Plus even if she was just messing around by kissing you women love to be flattered she already finds your attention flattering so dont worry. Telling her you fancy her will just flatter her if she's not interested in anything more. Compliments are always good but always be genuine and pick things to say that you mean because for some unknown reason women can sense a fake compliment a mile away drunk or not and they also have a supernatural power for knowing if your complimenting them just to get in bed with them. Pick normal times to compliment her like if your out shopping or she visits you and dont go mental with it. Say normal stuff like 'you look fantastic in that top' or if she rings you stop her mid sentence and say 'you know I just noticed you have such a sweet phone voice'. If your normally quite jokey and/or cheeky by nature then you could get away with a bit more as long as it would just as easily pass as your normal humour. If you think she likes the shy approach then act embarrassed if she wears a low cut top or leans over you or if she's shy when she's sober, then you lean over her subtly or touch her knee when your talking. If she's more confident than you and seems fine with the compliments then switch the roles follow a compliment by jokingly asking her to come and sit on your knee or say your cold and ask her if she'll keep you warm. Good luck
I want a gaydar.. I've been chatting with guys online and sometimes *felt* something, like this person might be open, but I highly doubt it's a gaydar... (seeing as I'm a stright guy that fucks guys LOL)
yeah i know!!! tell me about it! I went to a gay party on monday night with my new friends (i was the only chick) and i could see some ladies around BUT i couldnt tell why they were there (unless they looked butch and i dont really like butch ladies) i would assume they were there cos they were gay but in this day and age you never know. I guess I'm too shy...oh yeah and my gaydar hasnt developed yet. EDIT: in the meantime, try and see how good your gayday is! (I scored 70% and according to this I'm better at recognising guys than girls...no wonder) try it http://www.okcupid.com/gaydar (you dont need to register, just click on where it says "How good was i?")
thanks casey for the reply. just got to try it out now oh yeah, and i tried the gaydar test, 70% as well. i need some practice me thinks.....
You scored 65% "Definitely time to get tested." You personally got 13 of the 20 people correct and were better at recognizing girls than guys. Overall, you guessed better than 41% of all test takers.
i wonder if it's possible to actually get 100%? now that would be talent. i was better at recognizing boys than girls i think...
You can usually tell a guy is gay if he isnt fantasizing about sex with every girl he thinks is hot if he doesnt have a girlfriend. as for those gay guys who are married or have girlfriends i say fuck you for competing in a sport you dont even play in.
