bi, hetero, homo vs. mindsexual

so here it is. people ask me, I ask myself, "Am I a lesbian? Am I bisexual? Am I straight? Am I somewhere inbetween?" My answers vary greatly almost every time I ask.
I'm incredibly attracted to men when I'm relaxed, comfortable and free around them. No question about it. When I'm anxious, nervous, afraid, I'm pretty much a lesbian.
So. The source of my attraction lies not in people's crotches, it lies in my head, in the atmosphere, my mood‹even the weather. It also, I firmly believe, lies in their head. How they treat me, if they're being manipulative (biggest turn off in history of white ginger), whether they're lying (aaand close second), and whether they're loving and kind(oh did my period just start? wait.. it just finished a few days ago.. :X ).
Two people on tis forum have put their finger on it with: 'Love knows no gender,' and 'I am Sexual' (<one which I have come across myself in my search for the answer)
now just for fun.. not for a label, what should I call myself? spirisexual? mindsexual? psychesexual? choosexual? dependosexual? hehe treat-me-right-sexual?

and by the way.. any others who think this description matches them?

 

yeah i get your point. I could say that I'm like that too. I dont think i'm 100% cos I like girls but I'm not a lesbian either...i hate the word "bisexual" i dont know, it sounds like i'm confused but i'm not!....I just feel attracted to people by who they are, not genderwise, but something much more, like a connection, either spiritually or mentally (physically too)...
and what you can call yourself??? mmm... call youself a happy loving person. lame but hey!

 

i think your description fits a lot of people, in different ways. people think that secuality is all about what is bwteen someone's legs, i don't comprehend that very well. i think in the whole, whether people admit to it or not, there are a lot of people far more attracted to what is in a person's head above what is bewteent heir thighs. just be who you are, enjoy who you will, and trust your heart above the labels of others.

 

Does your feeling of being a lesbian come up when certain males make you "anxious, nervous, afraid?"

Gay men and lesbians often have different reasons for being what they are -- which is part and parcel of the fact that in our society, men and women in general think differently from each other.

Many women in lesbian relationships were in past relationships with men in which they were either physically, sexually or psychologically abused by their male ex-partners and they found in their female partners the nurturing support, understanding and love that their male ex-partners lacked.

I can certainly concur with that.

HA, HA, HA! That's not up to me, dear. Only YOU can do that.

-- Skeeter

 

yup usually certain males.. hmm that's interesting. I didn't know that.

 

White Ginger, I absolutely feel the same way. I feel like labels are so permanent and thats why I don't like them. I guess I'm different with different people.

 

Very true. With labels, everything just seems so like, "permanent" and "un-touchable", and thats why people are so "shocked" and "surprised" if you one day find yourself attracted to a different person than what your label would "allow" you to like, you know? Labels suck ass. Plain and simple.

 

Agree. Just hope that they will disappear, I believe in progress in evolution of society.