It's been a long time since my last relationship and, even before I broke with my last partner, I was crazy about a friend of mine. I'm really crazy about him, but the thing is that I think it's just a strong fisical atraction and not much of a serious relationship. The thing is that he is not gay but he has allways said that he wanted to do certain things with me and he was really "nice" with me in that time. But now I don't know what to do! I want to have something with him but he is not into gay things!:&
If the guy you're crazy about has said that he wanted to do certain things with you, then by all means, ask him. Find out what things he wants to do. It's the only way you'll find out where he's coming from. You say he's not gay, but he doesn't necessarily have to be gay. He could be bisexual. The only way to find out for sure is to ask him what he wants to do. When he says that he's "not into gay things," he could be talking more about what passes for gay culture and politics, rather than about sex. I know of many, many gay and bi men who want nothing to do with gay culture and politics -- and not all of them are "in the closet" either. I'm approaching 52 years of age and I've been "out of the closet" for over half of my life, but I'm alienated from much of what passes for gay culture and politics these days. So there are a lot of "gay things" that I'm not into myself. -- Skeeter
Damn Borgy, I know how you feel! I've had crushes on two of my guy friends at one point..The funny thing is that at the time when I did, they seemed to have had some sort of attraction towards me, you know, even if it was just a phase of curiosity...(Assuming they're straight at the time, and probably still are) Unfortunately, those phases are over, and I don't even hang out with one of them anymore. But damn, lookig back, even the little flirtatious things that happened I really miss...
