Do you suppose he told her, afterwards? I assuming here, that she was the one, who was or is, your best friend?
I must have missed some of this in the beginning, so to save me some time here, am I to understand that you're a woman and that your wife is a woman as well? Just asking, so that my reading here, doesn't confuse me in any way.
Luck of the draw, when going without any preliminaries, I guess. Maybe you should do a little rub a dub on it and for giving your fingers the smell test, before trying it again, next time. I mean you do plan on giving it another try, do you not?.....lol
If just looking at women counts as perving... then I'm a huge perv because I do it every day. Thousands are around me on any given day and they all are hard to not look at.
I perv... A LOT. Attractive people always catch my eyes and I'm always looking for attractive people. I've never been caught. I have two tactics. 1) I wear dark sunglasses during the day. 2) My head is like a radar. When I'm in public, I move my head back and forth like a radar. I'm always looking for people. My head never looks in one direction very long. Even if someone makes eye contact with me, my head is still moving and they will never be sure how long I have been looking at them.