Rings From Broken Engagements...

Do you still have a ring or other gifts from a broken engagement? If so, what should you do with it? Keep it and continue to wear or use it ? Or throw it out? Do you (or should you) eliminate all signs of any connections you had with your ex? What would you do with it??

Fellas & Ladies....let us know your thoughts!!!!

 

I still wear my wedding ring, but on a different finger. The reason I still wear it is because it's got a really pretty diamond surrounded by rubies (my birthstone).

 

I took both of them back and got a refund, then bought something for ME.

(Yeah, I took them back! I bought them, they didn't keep them. Therefore, in my book, they're MINE.)

 

only one guy bought me an engagement ring. I didn't accpet it in the first place and he didn't want it so I threw it away. I didn't have the receipt and I really didn't want to wear it.

 

I gave it back. I think it's kinda shitty to keep it. If I was a guy I certainly would not want 3 months salary on my ex's finger I would want it back in my bank account. I know my ex fiance still has mine uhm his now i guess that would be.

 

The Words PAWN SHOP come to mind... Or Jeweler.... I would either keep it or pawn it... it was a gift its mine to do as i wish... Ive never gotten an engagement ring but i have a diamond necklace and diamond bracelet and opal and diamond ring from my current boyfriend... and when we brokeup for a short time... i kept them and was going to pawn them... good thing i didnt, we got back together

 

that's so wrong I've given everything back from every relationship. consigning something that someone bought you because they love you and you're trading it for cash? it's tacky and they did not get you those things with the mindset that you would break up so consgning it or even keeping it imo is kind of like steaking from the person.

 

I don't think so. The guy who proposed to me was nuts. I was only 17!!! Plus, I don't think it was worth that much anyway.

I think if someone hurts you and doesn't accept the ring back, there's nothing wrong with pawning it as long as you offer to give it back first.

 

i gave one ring back, pawned another one, and i'm not sure what i'm going to do with my wedding bands. when we do our handparting, i might have my rings melted down into something else.

when someone *gives* you a ring, it's yours to do with what you please.

 

I got an engagement ring once (haha i know hard to believe) after we broke up, I returned it because i didnt buy it and it was a symbol of us being together, and we werent together anymore so therefore i gave it back to him...

 

curious, have any of you gals ever had a guy return a ring to you?

 

Good question!!

 

i still have my engagement ring in my jewelry box... i offered to give it back so he could return it and stop havin to make payments on it (he complained about having that extra bill every month) anyway... i don't know what to do with it... it's not worth tons, so i don't even know how much i could get for it... and it's kinda small so i don't know if i could make it into another piece of jewelry either... oh well.

oh and i had bought him a very cheap "engagement" ring as well... really cheap, because i was planning to buy him a very nice marriage ring later on... he wore it for a while after we broke up and then i don't know what happened to it.. he never offered to give it back though.

 

exactly it's not your ring it's his untill you're married and then it's yours together. If you get divorced that's a whole other situation then I think it's the chicks to keep or do whatever she wants with but if you haven't gotten married and you break off the engagement you should always give it back no matter whos fault it was unless he cheated or something then I can see keeping it. I just couldn't imagine keeping it that's weird it's customary to give it back.

Guys are supposed to get engagement rings too now? that's kinda odd.

 

but what if they don't accept it? What if they don't want it back and you don't want it?

What is proper to do with it?

 

in that case whatever you want to do with it. I wasn't refering to you I was talking to the chick who didn't offer it back and sold it-yuck.

 

yeah, that's a little mean. At least offer, ya know? especially if he spent a lot of money on it (like more than 100 bucks is fair. If he spent less than that you're aren't going to get much out of it anyway.)

 

It beats throwing it away... every time ive ever tried to give anything abck they've refused to take it... why not pawn it... If i dont want it and they dont want it... hell im taking the money.. its not tacky.. its logical... Throwing good jewelry in the trash is idiotic...

 

IVe tried and i didnt.. I said i kept them... Any person in their right mind is gonna offer them back.. i though that was a give in but i suppose i should say i keeped them cause here refused to take them back .. then i almost pawned them.. But i didnt cause we got back together.. Better clarification.. Yuck

 

well if they don't want it back but still I don't know. I only know of one circumstance where I agreed with somone consigning her ring because her fiance took a lot of furniture that she already had before he moved in. It didn't equate to the value of the ring but still it was shitty of him to do and she pawned and got new furniture and paid her car off. He was a total dick though and now she's engaged again to a wonderful guy.