I have been dating this girl for about three months, we absolutely love each other, and have a great time together, but she has never had good sexual experiences with anyone. So...we haven't had sex yet. Anyway, we got a day to ourselves this week, and we spent all day in bed, started out with back massages and everything, and inevitably started screwing around. I gave her her first orgasm, and she has changed totally! That morning, she was a shy, kind of unsocial person with a sheltered life. The next day, she was outgoing and spontaneous, and basically the exact opposite of how she was before. its so wonderful how she has changed. Anyway, has anyone else experienced something like this? I love it, but is it weird? How can getting off change a person's life so much?
no, i think its totally normal. the farther i get with a guy the more comfortable i am with them. the way that they treat you in that vulnerable moment tells you that they love you and you begin to relax because you know that theyre not there for just for sexual pleasures but for something deep down and true. if they treat you like an object it can make you feel like shit. i had a guy once and just the way he kissed me all over my body made me feel like a goddess. body language says a lot, sometimes more than words.
After I had my first orgasm I was different, not as drastic as the girl you're talking about. But there was a change for the better. Just like you can tell everytime I get laid because of the look on my face.
Thanks for the replies. We talked about it today. She told me that monday was the most wonderful day of her life because she felt truly loved and she knew i really cared about her. She's twenty but she has never really had a good relationship. I am a very cuddly affectionate person, and it has bugged her in the past because I like to be close. Today though, I was kissing her neck and just rubbing her arms and stomach and she smiled and said she liked how I told her I loved her without saying it. I amreally iscovering more about love and relationships lately with her. I have always had good relationships but I get screwed over a lot. With her, it was great, and then we had some problems, so much that I was baout to leave her. We have talked every confdlict out though, and I know she will be around for a while. I have never been one to argue, but with our relationship I know she cares as much as I do because she will tell me if there is a problem or talk about it if I have one. I know she really cares about us and me. I am happier than ever before!
