o' baby! lick, touch, rub me... Why isnt this working?

one minute isn't long enough to get warmed up. you need a partner who is more interested in pleasing/pleasuring you. find someone that you can get comfortable with physically -- touching, caressing, kissing, nibbling, you get the picture. eventually you'll be comfie with this person and after some time things will change. just keep the focus off of going all the way, just feel good. eventually you'll be turned on before your clothes are off and can't wait to get out of them and get it on. take your time. good luck.

 

i just have to say that your dog is just the cutest thing, omg i love him/her..

I guess i just have to wait for the perfect guy to understand my body..

i hardly understand it...

i bet it is from the Zoloft... But i cant go off it... i have already tried like 3 different anti depressant drugs.... humm... what to do?? Meh

 

i was on pretty strong anti depressants for a while, as well as an anti anger med, that shit had me all fucked up for 4 years

 

Zoloft seems to be really working for me...

I havent had an axiety attack im a while, at least 7 months... since i have been on the meds... so yea i wont be going off any-time soon...

i have read the side effects and they do say that Zoloft can lower the labido.... Dammit ahahaha

 

Those are both your culprits right there.
If the guy is going to move in for the "kill" like that, you've got to push him aside and tell him you need more time.
When I was younger it took me 30-45 minutes of consistent oral stimulation to get me off.
What has changed is this...
My bf will start by kissing my neck, pretty much like alkaline does in this [thread=63809]thread[/thread]. This gets me really hot. And then he works his way from there. This kind of preliminary was lacking in my younger days.

Just find out what makes you hot and have your man do it and do it long enough. Alot of young men rush it, you must educate them to not to, a woman's body is not made that way. If he still rushes you than turn him down for sex, he'll get the picture.

BTW, I heard on the sex-files that 27 minutes is average time for a girl to cum, so if you take 30-40 minutes than you're not far from average. Young men need to understand this and appreciate the time invested.

It used to take me 45 minutes regularly when I was 20. Now at almost 36, I can cum within 5 minutes, so don't fret, it's probably just a phase that'll pass when both you and him become more experienced.

But all this may not help you that is 'til ya get off zoloft. Sorry.
But if you can cum some of the time on zoloft than I don't think that side affect is really affecting your sex life. I really think it's the lack of investment.

 

did you have this problem before going on zoloft?

 

yes i did...

 

At 36 you get off in 5 minutes? I really wish I was 36 already haha, I have something to look forward to.

 

and you know what the irony is, is not to be rushed, in any part of it.

A few years ago I was dating someone who would rub my clit, without any lube and kept saying 'come on, cum will ya'. That only stressed me out which cause me to take longer to cum.

I don't think it comes with experience. My bf was a virgin when I took him and he's an excellent lover. And then there are men who've had many lovers and still can't get me off in less than 1/2 hr. It's all in the approach and that link I gave, my bf does what alkaline does and alkaline's only 17, see it's not just age that matters.