Ok so im in the same boat as alot of the guys here i dont meet alot of gay or bi guys in my area so when i do i try to keep in contact so far it hasnt worked out but any way it seems like when i meet a guy i want to be with him but this isnt because im into him or i feel something for him i dont know him i just dont want to be alone anymore and girls always take advantage of me (weird isnt it) so i want to know if anyone els feels this way sorry about the lack of grammer i suck at life
i feel exactly the same way.exactly. p.s.-you don/t suck at life. just grammar. p.p.s.-mabye you do suck at life i don't know you.
Hm, got an extra paddle for that boat? Yep...Me too...Except with me, I'm in the closet. So, I'm not going to be able to be with a guy, unless I come out. I could secretly go to some gathering somewhere and meet some people (Since New York is quite big), but I don't want to be all alone the first time I do so. Ah, who knows...
Because of your age (17), your chances of meeting very many gay or bi guys in your area are limited, even if you lived near a major gay urban center. For obvious legal reasons, you're pretty much limited to your own age group. Believe me, I know this from my own personal experience when I was your age. It's a lot easier for young gay and bi people to come out now, but, unfortunately, the law hasn't changed: You're still "untouchable" until you turn 18. And you still can't set foot into a gay bar (or ANY bar, for that matter) until you turn 21. Stupid, isn't it? On the other hand, many high schools now have GSAs -- gay-straight alliance groups. Is there a GSA at your high school? -- Skeeter
Have you got an alternative? Given the legal limitations placed on those under 18, I can't think of any. --Skeeter
Lots of schools and colleges have LGB alliances or societies, even in America's Midwest. They're not ideal (the one at my uni is fucking dire) but will at least get you out there. Staying in touch with guys... it's over-rated, to be honest. Stay friends if you like the person, but don't do it for the sake of it. No matter how alone you might feel because of this, you're not. My hometown has a pretty big gay scene, and loads of guys who'll act like your friends so long as it requires no effort on their part. They're worth hanging onto for a week or so, to find out if they have any worthwhile friends, but beyond that you might as well just become nodding acquaintences. Harsh but true. And don't worry about not finding anyone. You are young, you'll do better enjoying yourself than worrying about getting tied down. The gay scene isn't the best place to make friends; in truth it's probably the worst one. Best bet is to only go with real friends, so that you won't feel lonely enough there to do something you might regret. Mainly, try not to think about it. It won't help you to worry about it. You'll find someone when you least expect it, when you have genuinely given up looking and then stopped pretending to have given up and really just not cared about it. That's how it worked for me, anyway; there's people from my days on the gay scene that I spent countless nights hanging out with, but we're not close enough that I'd actually miss them if I didn't see them for a while. Your real friends, gay, straight or whatever, are far more important, because you have more in common with them than just where you stick your willy.
And, my opinion, if your strait friends find out you're gay and give you shit over it, fuck 'em. You don't need that shit (but you may want to kick their ass to get some hetero-respect).
